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My husband has been traveling a lot lately. I just try to do things on my own (I'm pretty independent, don't need people to go with me to the store or anything). It's hard but keeping busy makes it easier.
I'm in an LDR, and I would second the keeping busy suggestion. Make plans with friends or treat yourself to a massage or something. And maybe he can call you or email while he's gone so it doesn't seem so bad! :)
I was thinking about Skype too but I doubt he will want to chat all lovey dovey with me while he is in the office or hotel lobby lol. I've got a lunch date with a friend this weekend, was thinking of pushing it back at week to when he is away so at least I have one thing to do (as well as clothes shopping, better to go alone than with a man hehe).
I travel a ton for work, so I know how difficult it can be :( Maybe you could use it as an opportunity to reconnect with girlfriends who you haven't gotten to see as much since the wedding? It's also a really good time to catch up on movies you haven't seen that you know your husband wouldn't like ;) I agree with MissAsB, it helps if you keep busy. DH and I try to talk on the phone every night, even if it's just for a couple minutes, which helps a lot too.
My FH is going to Finland in a few weeks. I am so jealous!!!
I think you will be fine girl, Sure the nights will be a little wierd but its good to have that independence! Im sure you will find lots of stuff to do and catch up with alot of people. Sydneys great anyway, lucky him!
My DH doesn't travel, but rather lives about 1200 miles away right now :( I know it sounds cliche, but staying busy is sometimes the only thing that keeps me sane. When I come home and just sit around, I start to go crazy. I've been trying to schedule more time with friends, doing my own hobbies, enjoying "me" time, because once he's here, I'll have to make room for him in my everyday life...if that makes sense lol
Here's a little bit of an idea. When my DH was in Iraq, when I would really really start to miss him, I would write him a letter. It was my way of staying connected to him even when we couldn't talk at that exact moment. Maybe write your FI a note of gratitude each day he's gone. It could be anything, something that you love about him, a good memory, a feature you find attractive, etc. And when he gets back, you can give them to him. It's a fun way to think about your guy and be productive/romantic/generous at the same time!
My perspective might be skewed because I'm in a long distance relationship and my fiance is in the military, but I'll share for what it's worth! Two weeks will probably seem like a long time, but you can do things for yourself, relax entirely and have "you" time, keep busy, and it will fly by!
Jsdragonfly - that's a great idea, it will be a nice little pressie for him when he gets home too.
Everytime FI and I were apart, I tended to increase my exercise regiment naturally as an outlet. Maybe he needs to disappear for a few days haha!
I know how you feel. I was away on business for 2 weeks and a day after I returned FI went on a 2 week business trip, luckily this is not normal for us. I slept in the guest bed for most of the time because our bed was lonely haha. I usually rely on FI to drive me places like grocery shopping as well so when he's gone I shop one day at a time on my way home from work or I eat takeout more. This time I was pretty jet lagged but normally when he is away, I try to use my free time to do self improvement type things, eating healthy, plucking my eyebrows, painting my toe nails, an extra load of laundry, house cleaning etc. Think about what it is you were meaning to do but kept putting off because you spent the time doing something else and get it done while you have no one to distract you. Make plans to catch up with friends, work late, get a massage. organize something at home. This way you will get something done and have something to take your mind off of his absence.
I travel for work. I get SO busy and so exhausted being in 'work mode' i forget that i'm away. My husband always manages just fine without me (although i admit I find cans of things like ravioli and regular milk instead of our 'normal' food items once i come home). He did a great job cleaning everything up so that I came home to a clean house, a nice meal, a fridge full of groceries, etc. So, do all that so that when he gets home, you get to spend time together! Keep busy, go to the gym, make WHATEVER you want for dinner (for me, this would include a ton of foods my husband really despises!) and i'd go out with my friends more! Or just watch whatever I wanted on TV.
It'll go by fast. Write him emails when you get bored!
I'm the one who leaves frequently. I go back to Canada to visit at least once a year for at least once a month, and because I have so much more holiday time than FI (5 months as opposed to 5 days for him!), I use some of that time to travel. We're usually okay although we don't talk on the phone much because we have some literal communication problems on the phone (FI has more problems speaking in English on the phone than in person).
We regularly text each other all day when we are together, so when we are apart, we send lots of short emails all day so they act like texts. We also send 'surprise' email gifts - like once he found some old pictures of himself when he was a year old and scanned them and sent them to me.
I'm in a LDR with FI since June 2009 and we live 3000 miles apart. The hardest part is the first few weeks but after a while it becomes normal not to be together. Keep yourself busy and take time for yourself.
Do you have any hobbies you could do while he is gone? Baking or crafts. You could shop for presents for upcoming holidays (mother's day, father's day, b-days etc) or you could plan a mini-summer vaca while he is gone for when he gets back. My finance went to Korea last month for 2 weeks and I def missed him but yea staying busy helped. I chatted on the phone with my mom a lot, called all my BMs to catch up etc.
I wish my husband traveled sometimes. I could use some alone time. I was so used to living alone. I miss it sometimes.
Thanks everyone for all the good ideas.
I'll def be making all the foods he hates and have asked one of my friends to come over one night so I can cook for her. I love to bake but don't normally have time so I'll do that too and maybe do some crafting. I'm actually looking forward to some "me" time after 5 years of "us" time.
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Hubby has been offered to go to the Sydney office of his company to help out for 2 weeks. There is no reason for him not go and it will be a great chance for him to network.
I'm a little bit excited to have so much free time to myself (selfish, I know) and to be independent but the longest we've been apart in 5 years is 4 days and I missed him like crazy.
Since we got together I've relied on him quite a bit, to drive me, to do shopping with me etc so I think it will be good for me to have to fend for myself for a little while.
So while I'm excited for him I'm also a bit nervous and scared since I always miss him soooo much when we are apart.
If any bee's have partners that travel, how do you cope?