(Closed) My husband is having a 1/3 life crisis!!

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I hear ya!

Worse case scenario, you can sell the porsche 🙂

Also, life is too short, if a major health scare happens or whatever, you would want to know that you enjoyed your life and for your husband a car may be part of that equation.

I guess you should also treat yourself to something !

Post # 5
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My parents’ good friends always lived very frugally.  A few years back, they test drove a nice BMW.  The wife said she couldn’t understand why her husband was so hot on this car because he had never really cared about material things.  He said “I just want to have a really nice car sometime in my life.”  A few months later he had a stroke, and while he is doing ok, he won’t ever drive again.  It’s nice that he got to enjoy it for the few months that he did.  I guess my point is just that life is short.  Let yourself be a little irresponsible sometimes.

Post # 6
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

and what if you guys died tomorrow before you could enjoy any of the money you have? I know that sounds terribly morbid and I hope to God it doesn’t happen to you or anyone.  But, I used to worry so much about money and saving and having enough. That is a wonderful attitude to have but in moderation.  It’s okay to let lose and splurge now and then.  A Porsche won’t make or break you guys it sounds like.  If it does, you sell it.  Enjoy life now because you never know when it will end.  Having this attitude has made me a much happier person, made me worry less about money and what I do or don’t have, and has allowed me to enjoy some great experiences regardless of how much they have cost!  

Post # 7
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@CanAmBride:  “I keep thinking that that money would go so far in a retirement account or college funds for our future children, or a downpayment on our next house.”

You answered yourself right there.  Most retirement accounts are woefully underfunded and the addition of the Porsche money really and truly would make enough of a difference.  Plus, would you rather he purchase one in retirement when he really can’t afford it?

College funds for “future” children that do not yet exist and for whatever reason may not ever exist.  Not to be morbid but you may never have kids or they may not want to go to college.  While it’s admirable to want to pay for your child’s college, it’s not required and when I was in college many of the kids who had their college tuition paid for by their parents were not as serious about their studies or worried about changing their major from pre-med to something they actually liked because their parents were footing the bill.

And a downpayment on your next house.  So you already have a house?  You’re way ahead of me and many other people.

It seems like you all are responsible and able to save up decent amounts of money, let him have his car.  But make sure you get a few days here and there to drive it, then you’ll have a better understanding of why he wants it.

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