My husband may be joining the navy! Need advice!

posted 3 years ago in Military
Post # 3
Hostess
15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why isn’t he thinking of full time army? If he’s already in the reserves wouldn’t he be better off going there pay grade wise? Has he looked at full time reserve positions in other branches? Not judging, just a question to get a clearer picture. 

 

Post # 4
Member
8701 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Navy wife here. My husband is an aircrewman and he is home maybe a week out of every month. Sometimes he is only home a few days before he deploys again. It is definitely very, very tough but the upside is that he deploys in three week brackets, doesn’t go anywhere dangerous, and we have constant communication.

The Navy treats its men and women very well. It isn’t as strict in some areas as other parts of the military (Husband’s best friend is Army and they discuss differences all the time), and my husband gets liberties that some other branches don’t.

The pay is good, and he gets extra for living off base & being married.

It definitely takes a dedicated person (on both sides) to make a military relationship work. You lose your life, because the Navy owns my husband. His weekends are never his, since he can always be called in to work, or deploy at the drop of a hat. They even try to deploy you (at least in our case) if you’re on leave. That isn’t too often, but it happens. You can be called into work multiple times a day at any time of day.

At first, it was really tough for me, but I had just moved 1,200 miles away from any friend and family I had to a state I had only visited once, and he was gone more than he was home.

All the household responsibilities fall on me, and I often don’t have him to rely on when something goes wrong, so that’s also another thing you need to consider if you don’t have friends/family in the area (And even if you guys move.)

My life isn’t ideal, but it takes care of us, and the Navy takes care of my husband really well. It’s tough, and I’m lonely most of the time, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. 

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