- Miss Country Chick
- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Okay, so let me start by saying that my DH works the overnight shift, so he gets out of work around 7 am daily.
He mentioned the other day that the guys had asked him to go out with them after work today and said he wasn’t sure he wanted to go since he didn’t want to stay out til noon (which is super late for him, due to his schedule). I told him to do whatever he wanted to do because I tend to be pretty flexible if he wants to hang with his buddies. Besides, he knows when I get home from work and is usually there waiting for me (sleeping, but waiting nontheless).
However, I have to say that today’s events have really surprised me.
I came home from work today at about 4:30. And he literally hadn’t been home at all. My first thought was “OH MY GOSH, THE DOGS HAVEN’T GONE OUT IN 12 HOURS!” because I get up early to head off to work and could immediately tell he hadn’t been home at all. Our dogs are used to going out at least every six hours, especially given we work different hours, so this is incredibly unusual.
I took the dogs out and immediately called my DH to see what was up. He didn’t answer, so I started to worry. Noon would have been late for him to get home, but 4:30 is totally unheard of for him. He didn’t answer, so I sent him a text letting him know I was worried and just wanted to be sure he was okay. He texted me a couple of hours later to let me know he was okay, just drunk and hanging out with his buddies.
Here is where the question comes in… Am I totally crazy to be annoyed with him? We had plans tonight and the fact that he never even bothered to text me to let me know that he would be binge drinking literally all day (it’s now 8 pm) makes me super nervous. This is not normal for us, so I just wanted to seek input.
I don’t want to make mountains out of molehills, but I am totally shocked by his behavior. I’ve heard nothing from him for hours and he has obviously missed our plans since it is now bedtime for me (Again, I get up super early).
We have been talking about having a baby seriously for quite some time and I’d be lieing if I didn’t say that this makes me questions how ready we are to be in charge of an innocent life that relies on us entirely. I mean, he didn’t even let the dogs out before going out to booze with his friends! What would you think? Any advice is truly appreciated.