My husband never came home tonight… Am I crazy?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would be BEYOND annoyed because of the dogs.  If you didn’t have dogs, I wouldn’t really care — I’d just mention that I expect him to be more specific about his plans when we had kids.

Post # 4
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’d be pissed, that’s just inconsiderate

Post # 5
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’d be furious.

Post # 6
4043 posts
Honey bee

@Miss Country Chick:  I would be annoyed about the dogs. We have two dogs and they can go about 8-10 hours if necessary, but 12 would be painful for them to hold it and would probably result in them going to the bathroom on themselves (they are caged). 

I would also be annoyed about the plans getting cancelled. It’s pretty rude to disregard them and get drunk instead. 

I would definitely sit down and talk about what happened, when he is sober and you have calmed down. If this is out of character, it would be worth figuring out if this is a one time thing or if he is freaking out about something else (like having a baby). 

Post # 7
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

I hate the feeling of not knowing. Is he going to be home for supper? Can we watch a movie when he gets home? Can I start working on wedding crafts if he is going to be a few hours? Drives me nuts. 

Inconsiderate for not telling you and down right cruel for not letting the dogs out. 

Post # 8
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Miss Country Chick:  I don’t blame you for being upset.. I’d be worried out of my mind. however if this isn’t a normal thing than I probably wouldn’t make a huge thing out of it. I mean definitely let him know you’re upset and why…don’t get me wrong.. But after that there’s not really much you can do

Post # 9
40 posts

@Miss Country Chick:  I would be super pissed. I mean, I’ve stayed out all night before, but I contacted my FI so he knows where I am and I made sure I had no responsibilities to tend to. Did he think the dogs would just let themselves out? You have every right to be annoyed by this – I know I would be!

Post # 10
689 posts
Busy bee

Since this is the first time this has happened, I wouldn’t get overly upset about it. Just wait until he’s sober and discuss the lack of communication w/ him. 

Post # 11
3251 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

So rude. I would be really upset. Time for a talk about how to handle this kind of thing in the future. 

Post # 13
3097 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

We also have dogs & dh also works at night and I’d be so pissed about our doggies not going out & him not notifying me :/

Post # 14
425 posts
Helper bee

@Miss Country Chick:  I had a similar situation last weekend. DH told me he would get out of work by 7 pm, be home by 7.30 it was 9 pm and he hadn’t arrived yet so I thought he was still working. I messaged him, and an hour later nothing… so I called his cell, nothing, his office nothing…. I was sweating bullets (my city is very know for its crime rate). Nahhhh he just never returned to work after lunch because the partners took them to celebrate a promotion and his cellphone ran out of battery. Yes he slept on the floor the whole weekend… (not really).

Post # 15
3407 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I would be pissed beyond belief!!!

Post # 16
24 posts

@Miss Country Chick:  Well something similar happend to me when my boyfriend and I moved in. He would go out with his friends and wont come back the until the next day in the afternoon. I would get VERY frustrated about it and keep it all in. and then it would explode and we would have an argument. I think that you should talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. He will understand. Also tell him what is your expectation next time that it happens. And, dont forget that guys when they go out, most of the times they dont really check the time and they are not the most responsible. But i dont think that this situation alone should make you feel like you should have a baby with him. You should that the situation as an opportunity to set thing straight and adjust. Because i dont think that when you will have a baby that he wont ever go out again and get drunk for the rest of his life…


Just my opinion!

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