Post # 1
We went out for dinner with his family and it waz an alright night. The only problem we have is his ex girlfriend works there and i have been having ussues with his sister and sister inlaw. I also got upset before we arrived with his speeding while driving i called him selfish of others that are not driving. So after the dinner we r home now and my husband is pissed sitting there snapping at me and changes the channel and watches something else and said hes sleeping in spare room. I asked him and got mad at him about his attitude and what is wrong but no answer. So i am chooseing to sleep alone, and i dont know why.
Post # 3
Sorry you’re having a rough night!
It seems like you snapped at him first about his driving and then he kept it going. Calling him selfish because he was speeding might have been a bit of a low-blow. I think perhaps you could take the first step and approach him with that. He also seems to be over reacting by sleeping in a different room without talking to you about what’s wrong… I would suggest being open and loving towards him, recognizing how you contributed as a starting spot. Perhaps there will be an opportunity to say, ‘look a messed up for snapping at you. I know that must have been hurtful. I’m a bit worried about how fast we moved to sleeping apart… can we talk more about that?
I’m not sure what your issues with his ex, sister and SIL were/are, so I don’t know if that perhaps also was a factor in his reactions.
Post # 4
Wow, I really hope he can behave like an adult and express what his true concerns are. If you do end up talking with him and he gets pissy, say you’d rather continue this conversation when he’s calmed down.
Does he always speed when he’s driving? What did you say in the past?
My ex was a very road rage type of driver. I did yell at him once because he was driving so out of control and it was scarying the daylights out of me only to get after someone who pissed him off. I told him he was selfish for not considering my own life! So there’s a point where it’s just driving fast and flat out scaring you.
Post # 5
Any updates? You didn’t give us much to go by! Hope you are OK!
Post # 6
Umm nothing much was said about that night. He ended up acting all happy the next day. I did find out what got under his skin I think it was our SIL he was sitting close to her and his brother and the whole time she was snapping at his brother and treating him like garbage and it really made him upset. He said he was so close to walking out cause he couldnt handle her attitude. I thought maybe it was me cause my baby was impatient and it was a late dinner to start. But seems like hes still upset with last coupal years of finding out about the cheating thing. They are not in a real marriage they are pretending still. But my husband hasnt fully forgivin or wants to play along. I am happy it wasnt me saying that he was selfish, cause it wasnt the proper word to use since he takes care of us and we love him so much.