- Pink Turtle
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I used to use this site but felt I should stop after I got married, but now just need some advice and dont know where else to turn.
Im torn with this latest predicament.
My husband really wants to move away from our current city back to his home city. We currently live in my home city, he had been working and living here for three years before we met.
We live in NZ and currently live in the North Island only about 40 mins from all my family, he wants to move about an hours fligth away (cant drive as its over water) in the South Island.
In our current city we both have really good jobs (high paid) but he hates his job and wants to get a new job. The thing is he has just seen his dream job and it is in his home town. Im not sure how I feel, this new job will pay less but could be a great career move and I think he will be happier.
My job, well my office has an office in his home town and they are short staffed and so I can easily transfer – but the wages there are MUCH less and I would take a pay cut of about $10-15k however due to the shortage of staff I could likely promote quicker.
The cost of a house down there would be quite a bit less then here. I want to have kids and stay home so that would be possible in each, so I guess my job is not really that important.
But the things that scare me about moving – being away from my family, especially when I have children, I really like his family, but they just are not my family. I will have no friends down there, but I guess if I work have family etc I will make them.
Now the big problem with his home city hs just had a series of major earthquakes – hence the staff shortages etc. The place is all broken and there is nothing to do as the CBD got ruined and there is no entertainment and lots of people are moving away and those who stay are really quite depressed.
I just dont know how I feel, I really want him to be happy, but Im scared and dont think Ill be happy down there, also I have some really exciting opportunities here for the next six months, I just wish this did not come up so soon. I have always thought we would move evenutally but just not this quickly.