My husband's name is not Thomas

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2338 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@eeniebeans:  well is his name Yhomas and it could be a typo? Or is his name Tom and they thought they were being correct? Or is his name something completely different, like Paul and they’re just wrong.

Post # 5
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Was it a printed invite or was his name written on there by the couple? Our invites were all personalized (the guest’s name was on the invite itself, not just the envelope) and I had to give a list of our guests to the designer. In that circumstance I can see a name getting mixed up.

Post # 6
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@eeniebeans:  I’m guessing it was a complete brain fade. She got to 53rd invitation and mixed two people up or misread.

I would politely (and light heartedly) correct them. e.g. phone them and say, “I’m so excited to get your wedding invitation, but did you realise you put “Thomas” as my husband’s name (laughter / smileys)”

Post # 8
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@eeniebeans:  agh that drives me nuts! My best friend always, no matter how many times she sees it on FB or sees me text it to her correctly, spells Mr. H’s name COMPLETELY WRONG! That is so annoying and it makes me feel like she doesn’t care enough to spell it right. Sounds like you’re in the same boat!

ETA: seeing other responses, I guess I’m overreacting ab the name thing…but still. Lol. 🙂

Post # 9
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@eeniebeans:  My Dad’s step father (the only grandpa I have ever known on that side of the family) is named “Albert”, but goes by “Bert”. I sent his invite as “Robert”.

I’d give it a pass.

Post # 11
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015


Post # 12
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@eeniebeans:  Lol, aw that is sucky but I couldn’t help but giggle!

Any chance someone else has YOUR name and their SO is named Thomas?

Post # 13
3243 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

Sorry about the mix-up, but I’d give it a pass. One of my very best friends could NEVER remember my SO’s (and then DH’s) name. Nevermind that I’d been with him for a very long time, and she knew both of us. She would default to calling him “Chuck” (not even close to what his name is). I could have been angry that she chose never to remember someone very important to me, or I could choose to laugh. I chose the latter, and we still receive holiday cards addressed to “Chuck and Echo _____”. 

In this case, it sounds like it was an accidental mistake. It can easily happen when someone is sorting through countless names/invites.

Post # 14
2630 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@cirk:  LMAO@Yhomas!

@eeniebeans:  I’m voting some sort of oopsy between their list and whatever software/program they used or a brainfart as previously mentioned. I would just put the correct name on the RSVP then make sure to drop your husband’s name in conversation or message at some point to make sure.

Post # 15
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think it was brain overload.  My sister mixed up two men’s first names got the wife’s first name and last names correct but put Richard where is should have been Peter ans vice versa.  It has to be hard addressing a ton if invitations. 

Post # 16
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@KatB442:  +1

I definitely had brain lapses when I was reaching the end of addressing everything.

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