Post # 1
Lately, I’ve found myself wishing my husband was more stylish. When he’s not working, he mostly wears graphic t-shirts and I feel like that was fine in college, but I feel like we’re more grown-up and I wish ditch the old school/work/boy scout boring t-shirts. I am no fashionista myself, but it is a goal I am working on. I hate the idea of trying to change him into something he is not and his style is precisely that, however, I feel like I would be more attracted to him if he dressed better. Has anyone had this experience with their man?
I should add, he wears some of the same shirts he had in high school!
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Post # 2
My husband still wears clothes from HS as well. I don’t really know what to do about it though.
Post # 3
my husband still wears boxers he had in highschool. ick.
If your husband is like mine, he hates shopping. So i now buy all his clothes. I still try to pick stuff he would like, but slowly i am getting rid of his old stuff and replacing it with nicer things. Its a work in progress.
I made the mistake of buying a v-neck shirt last month. Hubby said it was “super ugly and made him look like a lesbian”. Seriously? LOL. He is so odd.
Post # 4
vanessa7: Give him presents! Pick out some shirts, pants, jackets in the style you woud like him to wear and surprise him. Often people, not just men, get comfortable in what was in style when they were in high school and just fail to move on.
Post # 5
vanessa7: I don’t especially have an answer but I feel your pain with my own hubby. And wanted to let you know I saw an interview with the wife of Mark Zuckerberg (founder of Facebook) and she had the same problem with him! Apparently he aaaalways wears hoodies and all she has done with him is gotten him to wear nicer hoodies. Lol!
Post # 6
I have a similar issue with my DH. He still lives in the 90s, and his clothes are all old, faded, and way too baggy for today’s times. I just started buying him new stuff, however I made sure not to go to the other extreme. For example, DH loves baggy stuff, so he would never be ok with skinny jeans for guys – but better tailored wide leg jeans? That’s fine.
I say start slow. Maybe first buy him a couple of shirts when you are out shopping. Shirts are easier to buy, b/c if you have a general idea of your DH’s size, you don’t need him to try them on. Then over time, buy a sweater or two, then move on to button-up shirts. If your DH is really set in his ways, this will not be an overnight process, but you will get SOMEWHERE!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I had the same issues, DH would wear something until it fell apart too much to wear anymore. Not everything was bad but a lot of old stained and too small shirts, pants etc..
I got rid of them over time and bought him new clothes. He likes everything I get him and wears it if it’s in his closet. He never even notices half of the time what’s new or that anything is gone.
Post # 8
Buy him things you like that aren’t too far from his usual style. Compliment him like crazy when he wears them! Worked pretty good for me, haha.
DH used to live in black band t-shirts and hoodies, and now he wears a nice button up or polo just about every day. He’s not going to be a fashion model any time soon, but he certainly looks more put together now!
Post # 9
Oh my gosh. My DH is the same! I love him but seriously, seriously, he needs some help. And I’m a t-shirt and jeans kind of girl! I’ve been complimenting him on his simple, soft henley shirts and he was given a pair of courderoy pants that look GREAT on him so we have a direction to go now other than cargos. I would never want to change him but if we could find something more mature that he still likes id be a happy woman!
At this point, this is what I’m working with….just leaving the door wearing something that matches Is my first goal 😉
(I made him stop and let me take this picture. He didn’t see anything wrong with it!!!!!)
Post # 10
My husband does not want to get rid of his old teeshirts. I do buy him new, plain teeshirts. He wears those too. I try to replace his graphic tees, but it has been a long and slow process. If I were you I would try to transition him by buying him shirts that are a little more grownup, and plain teeshirts.
Post # 11
vanessa7: I was not a fan of most of my FI’s wardrobe when we started dating. Some stuff was ok, other stuff just wasn’t flattering for his body type (broad shoulders, narrow hips – water polo player), and the rest was literally falling apart. I would make positive comments whenever he wore something that looked good and eventually he started wearing more stuff like that.
Also, before we moved in together and out of the blue, he said “Do you want to go through my closet and get rid some stuff?” I was thrilled! I immediately went through everything. Some stuff was immediately trash because of holes and stains. The rest he tried on, and if it didn’t fit then it was tossed. He actually fought me on this one weird Jagermeister shirt with 3D lettering – think like raggedy patched on letters. I still hate it but honestly you have to pick your battles lol.
My experience may not be typical because FI goes through cycles of “styles” and a couple years before we started dating he used to dress super nice. But when we started dating he didn’t and I think that’s because he didn’t fit into the stuff he used to. I would say just positive reinforcement when he wears something you like and like PPs said to start buying him a little bit at a time. I just couldn’t do that with FI cause he is extremely picky.
Post # 12
My SO dresses like a randomized sim. I feel your pain.
Post # 13
I take FI shopping and he will pick out nice things or listen to suggestions for outfits. I think he actually likes dressing a bit better now, but he still won’t get rid of his old clothes! Ratty, stretched out tshirts that are 3 sizes too big. He mostly only wears them around the house since he’s gotten new clothes. But when I tried to get rid of them he got mad at me because the shrits have “memories”. Or clothes he has had for years and never even worn, won’t donate them because they were gifts.
Post # 14
vanessa7: Just buy him new stuff! DH hates shopping, esp because theres not too much in our area and it can sometimes be hours before you find anything even worth buying. So I just get nice stuff for him and he always appreciates it, but he does the same for me sometimes too. Just don’t go too overboard. He really enjoys the more casual short sleeve button ups or polos, and don’t underestimate the sexiness of a simple white or black structured v-neck. Still a t-shirt, but it looks alot more classy without the graphic print & the sexy v-neckline…
We also have a rule when we moved in that was mine- at least once a year we go through our closets and throw out anything that hasn’t been worn all year. It was rough on him at first, but once I started pulling out stuff and found out the shirts were 10+ years old with armput stains and holes I just jived him enough he’d want to get rid of it too… I still let him keep quite a bit of his graphic tees because they are pretty regular style up here, but he does need some nicer stuff too!
Post # 15
vanessa7: I have a compromise with my fiance – he gets to wear whatever he wants (usually polo shirts, sigh) but when we’re doing date night or going to a party or event, I get input (though of course he gets the ultimate veto if he hates it or is uncomfortable). I’ve bought him a few slim fitting button down shirts that he actually likes, and converted him to designer jeans by splurging on a pair of Diesels one Christmas, so now he’s abandoned all his worn jeans since he sees how much nicer his Diesels and Joe’s Jeans fit. 🙂 Small victories!