Post # 1
I know everyone has issues at some point with their in laws but I’m starting to think that mine may be out of the ordinary…or at least a bit more intense than most. Let me know if I’m right or wrong to think that, I’ll discribe each family member below:
Mother in law: She is very passive aggressive. Almost each time she speaks to me it’s telling me what to do, saying “Well Becks, you…”. She also won’t stop telling me that my husband and I will change our minds on not having kids because he’s so good with his niece. She nags to my husband that I don’t call her enough, visit enough, of include her enoug…but yet she puts fourth no effort unless she wants me to order her MK cosmetics. Also for every holiday she wants us, we gave her Christmas and Easter (thanksgiving with my parents), and now she’s using someone’s like “oh you’ll break grandmas heart if your not with her for every holiday, we don’t know how many she has left.” Also I work out and she tells me how horrible it is for my joints and that running and yoga are sooooo dangerous.
Father in Law: He is the I welcomed advice guy. He just loads on advice even if its not correct and he is very VERY aggressive with it and he feels his opinions are gold. if he dislikes some thing, like organic food, he will go on a screaming rant for hours. He still nags me when I do a CSA organic work share because “it’s crazy”.
Sister in law: She has adult temper tantrums. Not much more to say on that
Brither in Law (SIL husband): he goes on racist rants on my FB and then gets upset if people react because thinks if a comidian can do it, why can’t he. He also likes to lick his finger and stick it in my ear, scream “wet willy” and tell me I over react when I tell him to stop. Then he likes to tell me that my husband and I should “create life” and touches my belly. He spoons with his mother on the couch. He drinks heavily when he should be watching his infant daughter.
Post # 3
@Becks1987: Honestly? They sound fairly trashy but it’s not really that out of the ordinary. The kids learned poor behavior and entitlement from their big-personality parents. The brother cuddels with his mom… which is probably what she still wants from your husband considering how controlling and whiney she is.
Post # 4
@Becks1987: Yes. I’m confirming it. They are insane. I thought my in-laws were their own kind of crazy… But they’re pretty tame compared to yours!
Post # 5
they mostly sound uneducated…
Post # 6
@Becks1987: Creepyy!!!!! So glad I dont have to deal with all that. DH has no siblings and his mom is an older version of me and her fiance is a jokester. His Grandma is so sweet and loving and writes me almost everyday!
Post # 7
I could have written this myself, except we want to have kids but she’s still just as pushy. If there’s a baby withing 20 miles she can sense the dang thing and makes a comment about when we’re going to start pushing them out. Mind you we’re both 25 and just got engaged, and not planning to have kids until 29/30.
Post # 8
sounds like we have the same in-laws (except I love my FIL and don’t have a BIL). They are crazy. Don’t give in, it will not make you happy. Just live your own life and likely you will out-live his folks.
Post # 9
Yeah, they sound a litlle out there. Honestly, I unfriended my own BIL on FB after he made racist comments. I told him straight out, I don’t want it on my page or even linked to me for anyone to see. Then I defriended him, it seems to have helped our relationship, he doesnt do it around me anymore!
Post # 10
Your FIL sounds just like my FFIL. He thinks that as the elder male, his advice and opinions are golden, even though they’re a bit old-fashioned and very ill-informed. This behavior has actually caused some major strife recently with FI’s other siblings and I don’t think FFIL realizes how bad it is.
Post # 11
Your brother-in-law spoons with his mother on the couch???????? Ew.. and ick.. And what does the mother of his infant daughter think of her husband/boyfriend spooning with his own mother?
I actually had to go back and re-read that portion of your post a couple of times just to make sure that was what you had typed.
I have a 20 year old son, and I can honestly say that we are close – but WTF we aren’t THAT close!!
Post # 12
@GonnaBeMrsB: no one even commented on it, but they all saw it.
Post # 13
@Becks1987: What does your DH have to say about his Brother and Mom spooning on the couch? I would have gone straight to him and said something like “Uh…. do you see something inappropriate here?”
Post # 14
They don’t sound any nuttier than any other family out there. When I was younger, the term “dysfunctional” got thrown around a lot about my family. As I grew up and saw more of other people’s families, I have realized that everyone has their own kind of crazy in their family. Some of it is apparent; some of it is behind closed doors. Nothing in the OP suggests that these people have some sort of malevolent agenda. Some things just have to be allowed to roll off your back.
Post # 15
I honestly don’t know how to deal with it all. In the past I’ve just let it all go and not made any fuss about it but the collective crazy is really getting to me. In my family behavior like that is snuffed out right away. I don’t come from stick in the muds, we like to have fun, we drink, laugh, tell dirty jokes, eat good food, ect. I just feel like im nothing like my H’s parents, sister, or BIL and they go out of their way to point it out, they even make fun of me for not getting shit faced with them. I honestly want to scream “WTF is wrong with you people?!”
NOTE : I love all of the grand parents, aunts, and uncles.
Post # 16
@Becks1987: Ha. Your MIL and mine as well as our FILs must be related. That is classic.
I am fed up with my MIL (she is clingy, naggy, and always says “don’t forget about this poor grandma” but, like yours, makes no effort to visit us). FIL works so much that I never see him so that is how I deal with him. The few times a year I do see him (and he only lives an hour and a half away) I just stay quiet and humor him.
My SIL lives too far away to not get along with, and since the wedding things have been better, but if you ever want to talk about clingy MILs, I am the right person to do that with. Feel free to PM me, lol.