Post # 1
I love my In laws to death! I hate ranting about them but I can no longer ignore this issue.
So heres the story..
My future inlaws own their own business and my Fiance and I are the ones taking it all over when the time comes… So anything that is done (ie..parties, meetings, get togethers, trainings) that has to do with the business My Fiance and I are in attendance…Well… The family thought it would be a great idea to have this huge event the MORNING after our wedding…Not only that, they wanted to invite all these people from across the midwest that are involved in the business to not only the event, but the wedding as well! I love having lots of people and I love the hustle and bustle of it all, but now not only do I have to worry about my own wedding but I have to help plan and prep for this event, and the people who were goign to be enlisted to help put our wedding together are now going to be enlisted to put this big event together.. I just feel like they kinda stole some thunder away from our day and added a whole new level of stress. Not to mention we are now going to have to get up the morning after our wedding to pretty much go to work. I just dont want my memory of my wedding weekend to be complete stress. Should I speak up???
Post # 3
i could understand if they wanted to plan a family reunion the day after your wedding, but having a business event then is just plain weird.
i would talk to them. don’t mention stealing your thunder, but explain all of the stress and how hectic that week will be.
Post # 4
Normally people say you only get one day for your wedding but since you and your Fiance are expected to work the event, I think you have a right to speak up that it’s too much for the day after your wedding.
Post # 5
OH NO!!!! Agree with @kitzy: In fact, even if you don’t have a honeymoon planned, I would make plans to stay out of town on your wedding night–just far enough away that you wouldn’t be able to make it to the other event!!!! What does your Fiance say?
Post # 6
When I saw the title of this post I thought “that’s not a big deal”… Thinking it was a casual (but large) family reunion of sorts, or an after wedding breakfast for all of the guests (and ya’ll)… But I think a WORK event that you would be required to attend (and put alot of your guests to work!) is just too much. I think you should speak up. You should be able to relax the day after your wedding! And you most definitely should not have to work!
Post # 7
Yikes. That’s a pretty big thing to be dumped on your plate the morning after such a stressful (though wonderful) event. I would gently explain to them that you will need a breather after your wedding, and that you two will either have to sit this one out, or, if the event can be moved, that you would be happy to participate if it was scheduled for another date.
Post # 8
I think thats totally unfair and I would take a stance from now, sorry but we will be on our honeymoon, staycation or whatever. Thats absolutely ridiculous.
Post # 9
Do you think they did it solely so they could invite said work people to your wedding? That sounds really ridiculous to me. Events can be draining. I’d talk to your fiance and see what he thinks, and try to convince your in-laws this is not such a great idea.
Post # 10
I’d plan a honeymoon and say sorry, but you and your hubby will be gone and can’t help 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks ladies! We had a discussion about it and they changed the plans… I feel so much better about the situation. Feels like weights have been lifted off my back