(Closed) My In laws planning huge event for the day after our wedding!!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i could understand if they wanted to plan a family reunion the day after your wedding, but having a business event then is just plain weird.

i would talk to them. don’t mention stealing your thunder, but explain all of the stress and how hectic that week will be.

Post # 4
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Normally people say you only get one day for your wedding but since you and your Fiance are expected to work the event, I think you have a right to speak up that it’s too much for the day after your wedding.

Post # 5
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

OH NO!!!!  Agree with @kitzy:  In fact, even if you don’t have a honeymoon planned, I would make plans to stay out of town on your wedding night–just far enough away that you wouldn’t be able to make it to the other event!!!!  What does your Fiance say?

Post # 6
2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

When I saw the title of this post I thought “that’s not a big deal”… Thinking it was a casual (but large) family reunion of sorts, or an after wedding breakfast for all of the guests (and ya’ll)…  But I think a WORK event that you would be required to attend (and put alot of your guests to work!) is just too much.  I think you should speak up.  You should be able to relax the day after your wedding!  And you most definitely should not have to work!

Post # 7
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yikes. That’s a pretty big thing to be dumped on your plate the morning after such a stressful (though wonderful) event. I would gently explain to them that you will need a breather after your wedding, and that you two will either have to sit this one out, or, if the event can be moved, that you would be happy to participate if it was scheduled for another date.

Post # 8
7420 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think thats totally unfair and I would take a stance from now, sorry but we will be on our honeymoon, staycation or whatever. Thats absolutely ridiculous. 

Post # 9
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do you think they did it solely so they could invite said work people to your wedding?  That sounds really ridiculous to me.  Events can be draining.  I’d talk to your fiance and see what he thinks, and try to convince your in-laws this is not such a great idea.

Post # 10
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’d plan a honeymoon and say sorry, but you and your hubby will be gone and can’t help 🙂

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