Post # 1
So I’m kind of bummed about this.
Since I’ve been wedding planning from long distance, my mom has been helping me out with a lot (which I’m very grateful for). Also, she and my dad are paying for most of the wedding (they’d always planned on paying for mine and my sister’s weddings – again, very grateful) and since they are hosting it, want invitations and such to come from them. But something with my invitations is making me a little bummed.
So my mom has been spending much of today putting together my pocketfold invitations and I’ve been talking to her on GChat at work because I’m kind of bored. I asked her where she ended up putting the address of my wedding website (as we had previously discussed adding this instead of listing registry info as I told her just listing info was tacky) and she told me that she never changed the invites and just ended up listing where Fiance and I are registered on the accomodations info card. I’m kind of bummed about this as I don’t want people to think my invites are tacky (because I think it is!) but my mom doesn’t seem to think its a big deal. She said that people of her generation aren’t going to want to go to a website or track down someone to ask about registry stuff. They’ll just want the info given to them.
I know nothing can be done about it now – everything is printed and being mailed – but I’m still pretty bummed this is going to be in my invitations now ….
Post # 3
Don’t worry about it – that’s not tacky!
It’s considered bad etiquette to have the registry info directly on the invite, but it’s perfectly acceptable to have it on the accomodations card. That’s disappointing that she didn’t include the website that you wanted, but I wouldn’t worry about reactions from any of your guests!
Post # 4
If it helps, I’ve seen it included in many invitation packets- not on the invitation itself- and frankly I don’t even think one way or the other about it anymore. I also think in th 90’s- the practice of putting a registry card in the invitation suite- I remember Macy’s offered this- was considered a convenience to guests….
Post # 5
I THINK SINCE IT WASNT ON THE ACTUAL INVITATION CARD YOU ARE OKAY! NO WORRIES 🙂
Post # 6
Don’t be bummed at all. Even though its a “no-no”, we are doing it too! And we just got an invite in the mail with it done also. Most of my family isn’t going to go to our website, and truthfully, it was nice to have it in front of me on the invite so I didn’t have to track down their’s!
Post # 7
I think that your invitations will be fine. Your registry information is not directly on the invite, so I do think it will be okay. The only time that I am put off by an ivitation is when the registry information is directly on the invite. I would not be put off by it being on the accomodation card.
Post # 8
Yeah, don’t worry about it. It may not be the preferred way to do things but no one is going to think badly of you for it. We’ve probably all seen things we consider worse. 😉
Post # 9
Thanks Bees! I always appreciate the quick, honest feedback I can get on here. I didn’t realize that people actually differentiate between the invitation and the invitation packet. I guess I’m just so used to hearing that including registry info is a no-no that I didn’t realize that in certain places it’s not so bad.
Post # 10
There are bigger things to worry about. Don’t let this little thing bother you.
Post # 11
I always thought the no-no was the registry info on the invite itself. I will probably enclose a card that has the info on it too. I know my guests would rather just know than track the info down.
Post # 12
Honey you are fine! We are not doing this, but every single wedding invitation I have gotten has had the registry information somewhere on it. I think it is a regional thing. I have never thought anything of it.
We registered for a $500 vaccuum, and were told by Future Mother-In-Law that some guests would think it was tacky. I told her to let me know their names, and I would go ahead and cross them off the guest list. LOL.
Post # 13
We just got an invite to a wedding with the registry on it. I think lots of people do it
Post # 14
I think since the invite is obviously from your parents it is different as well. The reason it is considered tacky is it makes it seem like you are saying “come to my wedding and bring me a GIFT” if it is on the invite. This way it is more like your mom providing info, just like it is not tacky to list on a shower invite!
Post # 15
I think you’re fine. My mom was mad because I didn’t include it!
Post # 16
we just put “registry on request from Stephanie Rudge” (my mum) because we haven’t done a proper one we’ve done a list of stuff we need for the house.
if people wanted the list then they can ask my Mum – it would be awkward if they asked us so it’s my Mum instead – but they don’t feel like they have to buy us a present!
(and yes we have sent our invites out early – but in Britain we don’t really do “save the date” things!)