Post # 1
So I’ve finally come to my first disaster. The dress I ordered from Jasmine’s is TOO BIG. I did all the measurements with my fiance, we double-checked too. I’ve barely lost weight since I ordered. By barely I mean 5-7 pounds. Yet the entire top of the dress is falling down. Maybe I fucked up, I have no clue at this point. The dress is paid for in full.
I am lost. Frankly we do not have the money for alterations. On Friday we were in the black and spent about $100 on a night of fun we needed. Okay right? Then my fiance got into a minor accident this weekend and because we do not have medical insurance yet we paid $300 out of pocket for stitches. He had to take off work yesterday and the weekend because of it, goodbye more money.
My fiance called after I tried on the dress and I broke down telling him about it. He said nothing for a long time while I sobbed. I actually started to get angry because he didn’t say one good thing except, eventually, “Did you get your flowers?” I did and they’re beautiful, but he didn’t console me even a little. All he said was “I don’t know how we’re going to pay for this” and told me to start looking at alterations places. That was it. I am so angry at him for being that way but I understand that this situation isn’t easy on him, either. I feel bad for cutting our conversation short.
We are paying for almost the entire wedding/honeymoon ourselves. His mother was nice enough to pitch in for my dress, which neither of us had expected and were grateful for. I feel extra guilty knowing that she helped pay for a dress that does not fit me and I am starting to doubt I will even get to wear.
I have been making a list of places that do alterations in the area so we can visit and see if anyone can do anything in such a short time. I contacted another by email outlining the situation and am waiting to hear back. I am looking for more to contact. I think about just wearing a regular white dress I have or buying a cheap one, but really I have no idea what to do. I am so disappointed and angry. I do not even know if there is any point of talking to Jasmine’s because it’ll take a week each way to even send the dress back–if it can be sent back–and I’ll have to pay shipping. And most likely for the alterations because it’s not like I can “prove” they’re not what I sent in; I am no seamstress.
If anyone has any ideas I’d love to hear them, but most of all thank you for listening. I am going to cry a little more now.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Do you have any friends or relatives (or relatives of friends) who are sewing savvy and would be able to help with the alterations?? Maybe try asking??
Post # 4
im so sorry this happened!!!
i know what u mean, i brought a chinese dress too and the measurements were correct on my end but it came back HUGE and waaaaay too long. i was lucky i just wrote it off and got a new one, but for you i would reccommend trying to sell it and get the money back, then going out and buying another one?have u got time for that?
the chinese dress stores are either: terrible with measurements, their measurements are different to ours, or they just dont care.
could you pin it in at the sides yourself? not ideal but better than not having a dress
Post # 5
or borrow some money off someone close to you, and paying them back?
Post # 6
It might be a mistake on Jasmine’s end…
As for alterations–Maybe a seamstress would be willing to set up a payment plan? Do you have a close friend that could lend you the money?
I’m sure it will all work out. Do you have photos? Maybe a visual woul bring out some great suggestions.
Post # 7
Breathe sweetie!! It will work out! 3 weeks is plenty of time. Get an estimate so that you at least know what you’re looking at. Then, maybe, can family or friends or bridal party chip in $10/each toward the cost? It’s worth a shot…
Post # 8
First up, I would check the measurements that were given to Jasmines and then remeasure yourself. If its the same or similar, then I’d say Jasmines messed up and you could go back to them for compensation to cover the seamstress costs. I hope it all works out for you.
Post # 9
@summer_1981: +1! If they messed up, they should be paying for the alterations now.
Post # 10
@LaCroix: Lots of Hugs. You need to relax, it will work out. Lots of suggestions about getting the money, so try all those avenues.
You have two issues:
1. Get the dress to fit (money and seamstress)
2. If Jasmines made an error, get compensation (seamstress should be able to confirm and take photos of the dress with a measuring tape)
You really need to check your measurements. 7 pounds is just over 3kg, so it may have had some impact depending on where you have lost the weight, but really the dress shouldn’t be that big that it is falling off if you gave the correct measurements and Jasmines followed them.
A seamestress will be able to tell if the measurements of the dress and the ones you gave are the same. So that will be proof that Jasmines made a mistake. You have 3 days to get back to them. Put urgent in the e-mail.
Without seeing the dress it is difficult to see what needs to be done.
You have plenty of time for a seamstress to take the dress in and to take it up. Trust me, it really does not take that long, may be about 5-8 hours of work. But again without seeing the dress it is difficult to say.
Wishing lots of helpful thoughts to get you through this very stressful time.
Post # 11
Thank you everyone.
I’m a little calmer and will take on many of these suggestions. I just wish this was not happening but I also wish I could fly, so much for that, right? Ugh, life.
Post # 12
@LaCroix: You know there is one positive side to this. When you get the dress altered it will fit like a glove and you will look amazing.
Another thing to remember is, even if you bought the dress from a bridal shop, you would need alterations.
You are going to be a very beautiful bride and it is only a few weeks to go.
Post # 13
Have the back changed into a lace up, that only costs about $100
Post # 14
You might be able to get a slight refund from Jasmine’s, but my guess is you’ll have to fight for it. They’ll probably offer to have you ship the dress back to them to be fixed.
Casablanca majorly screwed up my dress, and it was 4 inches too big in the bodice. I received it a month before my wedding. They said my only option was to ship it back for them to inspect and fix, and that would have taken way too long. I used a bridal salon in another state, so I didn’t have the option for them to alter it.
I ended up finding a salon near me that uses independent tailors. The tailor managed to take my blob dress and make it fit me pretty well in three weeks. The salon was also willing to knock $100 of the alterations package price because I didn’t need a hem or bustle, so you might have some room to negotiate if you don’t need those. I think overall, I spent $300 on alterations, and it was finished in 3 weeks.
If you can come up with around $300, either through Jasmine’s refund, borrowing it, or whatever, I think you can get this fixed in 3 weeks. If it were me, I hate to say it, I’d charge a few hundred bucks on my credit card if I didn’t have it before I’d sack my wedding dress because it didn’t fit. I just wouldn’t wait to contact a tailor–they may have to open an additional appointment slot to fit you in quickly.
Post # 15
Met with a seamstress today and am going to be able to get the dress taken in plus shorten the front hem a little more (it’s below my knees) for a really, really reasonable price–AND within my tiny time frame! YAY!
Thank you again Bees for all of your advice!