Post # 1
The last time I posted here, I was offered another position, it turned out to be the opposite of what I thought it was, so I’m still stuck at my current position and it’s literally making me sick.
Having to deal with someone who has an attitude problem and think she’s above everyone because she’s a single mom is getting to me. I’ve been here for over 2 years and I have had my fair share of family issues (My 93 year old grandmother is in the hospital, I took one day off to see her because my relatives and I don’t get along) and I got attitude about it. I haven’t seen my grandmother in 3 months before yesterday. Long story short, my boss knows of the issues that are going around in the office and his way to deal with it was to go to Hawaii for 2 weeks.
I think I might just quit without finding a back up job and I have been applying to places NON-STOP for literally half a year. I’m at a loss of what to do…. I’m losing my mind, I’m getting no sleep, I haven’t eaten in months and I feel like crying, screaming and jumping into a deep dark hole… Help!
Post # 3
i don’t have any good advice but wanted to offer some ((hugs))
Post # 4
It’s much more difficult to find a job if you don’t already have one. If you have been looking fruitlessly for a year and a half, are you financially prepared for what may happen if you can’t find a job for many, many months? What’s your backup plan?
It sounds terrible. I’ve had a soul-sucking job like that. But, I stuck it out until I found another job.
Post # 5
@tiedtogetherwithasmile: While I would love to say just quit, obviously it’s not that easy. I once worked a job that made me physically sick and I just had to walk out, it was against my moral values to work there. But I should have found something else first. Maybe you have a back up plan? My back up plan was waiting tables since I had done it for forever. Also if you’re not getting calls back on your resume maybe you can have someone savvy look at it for you, just to make sure it’s as good as it can be!
Post # 6
@crayfish: I have gotten quite a few call backs and some offers, however most of them offer below what I’m making now and the point of finding a different position was to make a little more money. It’s weird because when I didn’t have a job, everyone wanted to hire me and now that I have a job and I’m actively looking, nobody wants me!
Post # 7
I am in the same situation. I have strep throat right now & it is the second time I have been sick from work for 3+ days in 2 months. I get sick often there, perhaps from the stress. I literally am miserable there, but unfortunately, like you, I cannot leave without a back-up plan. All these unpaid sick days are adding up though.
Post # 8
Hang in there… I was just recently promoted and got a brand new boss after being at my current job for 3.5 years. My previous boss was THE DEVIL… Like you I could not take a day off whithout getting treated like shit the next day. Can you believe that I had a car accident at one point and she was I kid you not…. blowing up my phone the following day while I was taking care of insurance stuff!.. Yelling at me over the phone telling me to prove that I had been in an accident. And this was not even including day to day dirty looks, attitude and changing her mind on things and acting like that was the way it always was. I dreaded coming here. But I had to stay! No other choice!
Finally after years of letting her get to me I finally decided to just not care anymore. Easier said than done but it is possible. Don’t let her get to you, she has the problem; not you!
Post # 9
Is she a coworker or a superior to you.
Nicely calling her out on her behavior can often turn stuff like this around
“Sally, have I done something to make you not like me? I am getting the vibe you feel or I feel like you are…[fill In Blank] (IE you are constantly trying to put me down) and I wish we could have a civil work relationship”
Address the elephant in the room. But be sure to turn it into an “I” statement.
Post # 10
quitting without a job lined up is a bad idea, especially when you’ve been applying for six months with no long. Stick it out for the next two weeks then talk to your boss when she gets back from vacation.
Post # 11
The worst mistake I ever made in my life was quitting a job without having a new one already lined up. It took about 7 years to get my career back to where it was. It put a huge strain on my marriage due to the loss of my income, but even more so, due to my own feelings of guilt, stupidity, and worthlessness. My husband was unbelievably supportive, but I was really hard on myself for doing something so selfish and rash. I’ve had soul-sucking shit jobs since then, but never considered leaving one until a better one was already in the bag. I’m doing well now, but that’s a mistake I will only make once, and will always regret.
Post # 12
@ThreeMeers: She is just a coworker, she started before me, so I technically have seniority over her. However, my boss who is also the owner is non-confrontational and pities her because she plays the “single mom, having lots of trouble” card. Even though everyone in the office know its not true. She cries wolf about not getting enough help from her family (but her parents always show up in the office to pick her up to take her home, she’s 28) she doesn’t live on her own, she still lives at home with her family and her son. She just likes the attention she gets from our boss because he’s sympathetic towards her.
Post # 13
@Daisy_Mae: I do have some money saved up just in case I do leave, because I don’t want to not have to job hunt and be broke. So I have planned that. My SO is going back to school in Sept and will finish in 7 months and goes on to work with his brothers. At this point, even if I did find another crappy job but with a better environment, it’s better than the crap I’m dealing with here!
Post # 14
Can you quit?
That’s what I did when the company was literally making me sick. I would throw up in the morning before going because of stress. I was in the military for 4 years, and then worked for the same company for 7. Then worked at this hellish shithole for 8 months before I snapped and was like… no can do. Hubby encouraged it.
No job is worth your health!
Post # 15
@deetroitwhat: I am going to quit. I have a few interviews lined up, so hopefully I’ll be offered a position! Things blew up with her on Friday and she flipped her (pardon my french) shit at people because she was asked to multi-task and she can’t. I hope I get out of here soon, I’m drowning in stupidity.
Post # 16
@tiedtogetherwithasmile: I’m so sorry you have to deal with all of this!
I recently quit a position where I was working for a man and his wife (real estate agents, she was his partner in the business just to help him because he got so busy, but she wanted out) Well when I was hired, she got very territorial over her husband making my job impossible.
I’m talking, I had to start CC’ing her in every email I sent him, she added me on Facebook, she made a post that I was tagged in that was deleted shortly after it was posted, started arguing on Facebook and Twitter with her husband, IT WAS AWFUL.
I cried everyday before work, and finally one day, I quit. I didn’t have a job lined up but I couldn’t do it anymore. I wasn’t getting the pay I deserved and I felt like any minute his wife was gonna show up and harass me in person.
As fate would have it, 2 days after quitting, I got a new job. It’s scary but I didn’t feel happier than I did the moment I quit my prior position.
Good luck and I hope you find a new job soon!