My last name is invalid??

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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3677 posts
Sugar bee

Seriously obnoxious. What about spaces? I added DH’s last name to my own and now legally have two last names (or, you could say, my last name is two separate words.) And names like that are not at all unusual. In the Spanish-speaking world, for example, everyone gets two last names, one from the mother and one from the father, and it’s up to them if they prefer to hyphenate, use both with a space, use just one, etc. People who write online forms need to realize that this is not the 1950’s when everyone’s name followed the same pattern.

Post # 4
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MistySoda:  in mexican culture, everyone has 2 last names.  their father’s and their mother’s.  when women marry, they typically drop their mother’s and take their new husband’s father’s.  i think i explained that correctly.

they almost always use their middle names too.  having 4 – 5 names is not unusual.

Post # 5
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Bad job of programming their site 🙁 Also, in Michigan you can’t have 2 last names on your drivers liscence because the system can’t handle it. You have to hyphenate it, so if your name is Smith Jones on your passport it would be Smith-Jones on your Michgan liscence. Annoying!

Post # 6
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3889 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Most airlines don’t support the hyphen character, at least here in the States. DH is hyphenated (which is the #1 reason I did not take his name) and he gets such a mixed bag on airline tickets. Joe J Williams-Smith becomes Joe J  Williamssmith on one carrier, Joe J Williamssmi on another because it’s too long to fit, sometimes one of the last names gets dropped or something gets tacked on to the middle initial… It’s a mess. Any time we fly one airline (say, Air Canada) but want to put the miles towards another (like United) it’s a nightmare. Hotels even worse.

in Verizon’s case they are actually about a dozen smaller companies which have merged and combined over the years. Verizon and Verizon Wireless aren’t even the same company. AT&T are the same way. As they merge customer databases, they usually go with “strictest rules win” to help the data stay intact during the process, And manually fix records that don’t meet the stricter rules. But it’s not a good data structure going forward unfortunately.

Post # 7
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10986 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@abax:  This was the case in my state, too. I wanted to keep my middle name, take my maiden name as a second middle name, and then take my DH’s last name (example:  from Jane Emily Smith to Jane Emily Smith Doe.) However, the motor-vehilcle administration staff in my state informed me that I could not have a non-hyphenated, two-name, last name. So, I dropped my given middle name and became (example: Jane Smith Doe.)

@MistySoda:  That is odd. There are so many women with hyphenated last names. I even know two men who have hyphenated last names.

Post # 8
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MistySoda:  My maiden name was hyphenated, too. In fact, both my parents legally hyphenated their names when they got married. My last name was 16 letters and really uncommon/hard to pronounce and I hated it. It didn’t fit on my credit cards, tons of other official documents, and no one could pronounce it. I ran into issues with it being “invalid” too. Needless to say, I changed my name when I got married and now have a 6-letter name that is one of the most common in the country :p 

Post # 10
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4367 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ErinC6:  I had a 6 letter common last name, I was pissed going up like 4 letters.  I could not deal with hyphenated at all!

Post # 11
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432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My parents just use my dad’s name when dealing with Verizon.  Such bullshit, though.  It’s poor programming and laziness in doing anything to change it.

Post # 12
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535 posts
Busy bee

@MistySoda:  My mom hyphenated her last name with my dad’s last name, so her name is First Maiden-Married.

When she is filling something out where hyphenations are not allowed, she fills it out as First MaidenMarried (so without the hypen).

It seems really annoying that they won’t let you hyphenate, though. 🙁

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