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My SO asked me to make a wishlist for my birthday (we always make wishlist.com lists for gift giving occasions) and I totally put an engagement ring on it. It was mixed along side of other stuff, but there it was (I didn't get it! booo!!).. Also, I work in the wedding industry (as a photographer) and whenever I come home from a shoot and he asks me how work was I always mention a thing or two I would have done differently. I'm pretty sure he's oblivious to that being any kind of a hint though. lol.
hmmm well I know it's coming soon so I got a pair of tickets to a wedding expo show :)
I very obviously look at wedding sites in front of him and mention it all the time.
I am not a very subtle person by nature 
it's probably making my wait longer but I can't help myself!
I also preface any wedding related question that I want to ask him with "can I ask you a question?" and a little smile. It's our little joke now...
1. He mentions all the time what we can put on a wedding registry.
2. He talks about my engagement ring. (Funny because he has it GRRR lol)
3. He's already fake proposed a couple of times
4. I'm not a very subtle person either so I just talk about it anyway
@katiebeary I'm with you I also am beginning to hate the term boyfriend (seriously we aren't in high school or even college for that matter) We are adults time to fix that problem!
@happy2bee: SO calls me his "partner" - if he knows the time for calling me his girlfriend is over then he TOTALLY needs to propose :-)
We talk about marrige a lot but yesterday my Sweetheart came home and said "how is my bride to be?" My ears perked up!!! Does he know something I dont???!! I always look at wedding sites online in front of him so its no secret I am waiting and brainstorming! :)
We are going on a cruise for my 30th bday in Jan, my friends think it will be then. I am secretly hoping its sooner.
@yessy82: Oh my lord, I know what you mean! My SO calls me his fiance or wifey when I least expect it, so my ears perk up in hyper mode and I get so excited! But then I get sort of grumpy and think, "Well, where's the ring? I'm ready to start our lives together as HUSBAND and WIFE!" I usually just keep that part to myself. :P
I'm not very subtle. I straight talk about it. lol But in my defense he's told me to start planning. Before though I'd slip it into conversations about so and so getting engaged and what I've seen of good 'ol facebook!
@katiebeary: My SO teases me now and instead of just calling me a pet name he adds "Mrs." infront of it. ughhhhh.. haha
@katiebeary: its so tough, we live together as husband and wife already- been through Premarital counseling and all ....now I just have to wait...
@katiebeary: its so tough, we live together as husband and wife already- been through Premarital counseling and all ....now I just have to wait...
I'm not a very subtle person. I had several friends get engaged recently, and I always show him pictures of their rings and keep him up-to-date on their wedding planning. Then I'll ask for his opinion. Then I'll outright say that I can't wait to plan our wedding! Haha. He just smiles and shakes his head at me. We've discussed possible venues, colors, large wedding vs. small wedding... yeah, I don't do subtle hints well, haha.
Sometimes I'll slip up and refer to him as my husband in conversation. He gets a laugh out of it. I can't help that I already feel married to him. I think that just shows how good we are together and that we should be married :D
On the other hand, when he's talking about me to friends, especially if he knows I'm listening, he'll refer to me as "wifey." He knows it drives me crazy!
He'll also make random references to "our wedding" in conversation. It's funny. Last night we were grocery shopping and a box of tissues inspired a conversation about wedding colors. We spent 20 minutes trying to find an ideal example of a "peach" color. There we are, in the middle of Walmart at 11 at night, clutching tissue boxes in different colors, while he insisted that peach is orange/yellow, like the peach fruit, and I tried to explain that the color peach is more pinkish.
I guess we're both terrible at dropping subtle hints!
I have tried to tell myself to stop thinking and wishing for it so much. But it is just soooo hard!!!
Ladies have you thought of what your dream proposal would be??? I have but its not like I can tell him...wish I could plant it in his brain Inception style! 
@yessy82: Girl, I'm SO bad about biting my tongue about engagement and marriage! My SO told me last night that I gotta stop talking about it so it can be a complete and total surprise, and he's not gonna do it till I make it so I'm not expecting it every moment LOL! He then drew a bubble bath for me and we relaxed. Those times remind me of why I'm so crazy to get married to HIM and him alone. Just remember why you love him when you've got your impatient, bad waiting days. Sometimes I look at wedding dresses, rings, venues, or come onto the boards to make it so I can talk about marriage, just bite my tongue when I'm around my love. :P
@katiebeary: I am so glad to know that its just not me!!!
This has been my new outlet since I have tried to stop talking to my SO about it and I am having a blast on this site! :)
Ohhh I so agree with the naming thing! I get called wife, wifey, fiancee etc. It does feel nice for a brief second to be reassured that 'yes, he does still want to marry me'.
Mostly i reply with a "you can't call me that", "i would be if you'd ask", "you can make this a reality" or similar remark to which i get a sly and equally as ambiguous 'one day'.
STOP TEASING ME, IT'S NOT NICE!!
I'll admit, I've started being a very curt and blunt person when it comes to this topic. He likes to 'dangle' it in front of my face by talking about 'our wedding', to which I now reply "WHAT wedding? I don't know about you, but I don't have a fiance right now." I don't know why, but I don't like acting like we're engaged when we're not yet.
@UsagiTsukino: I feel you. I'm starting to get the SAME way. It's nice to know that they feel that way, but for them to dangle it in our faces and introduce us as their fiances and call us wifey and so on, it just makes me want to be like, uhhh, if you keep TALKING about it then why don't you DO IT? It makes so very little sense to me. :\ I just asked for a promise ring for my birthday in November, I doubt he's going to propose any time soon, but having a promise ring on my finger will give me some sort of feeling that we're moving in the right direction slowly but surely.
@katiebeary: My SO gave me a "promise ring" as a one year anniversary present. We had discussed it beforehand, and I came to love the idea. We weren't/aren't ready to be engaged, but he wanted to show that he was committed. He asked that I wear it on my left hand to show that I am "taken." It was also given with the promise of a proposal in the future, and it was made clear that it's a pre-engagement ring.
It definitely has helped me through the waiting process thus far and has allowed me to relax a bit when it comes to getting engaged/married.
Also, more recently, I agreed to look at e-rings with him on occassion with the catch being I won't ask questions. It's not going to happen any time soon, but he wants time to learn what rings I like and have time to plan the proposal. At least I know he's thinking about it!
@calikary: MY SO told me to start planning. He makes jokes at me when I mention wedding planning stuff. But if I say something negative about the wedding planning he gets mad and grumpy and starts pouting at me. I'm so damn confused! I'm also convinced that if he was set in a stable job, I'd have a ring on my finger. So you know I'm on craigslist, yahoo and hunting down now Hiring signs all over the city!
My fiance's mom actually took me to look at rings and then she hinted to him and he told me he had asked her to take me for almost 6 months!! Haha and I knew nothing about it and personally wasn't even considering it but when he asked me I could say nothing but "oh, oh my, oh oh oh, oh my god no!" and he goes "no?" So I said "no, not no!" and he goes "yes then?" I said "Oh just stop it and kiss me" and it was over lol
I think I would really dislike it if my boyfriend called me fiance or wife (when we're not engaged/married). He hasn't proposed yet, so I don't want him to pretend that he has. I think he wouldn't like being called fiance/husband either. Just my personal preference/opinion tho.
I'm not subtle at all about wanting to get married. I say all the time "when we're married..." or "at our wedding." I also email him pictures of any ring that I'd like to have and I've even gotten him to look at rings with me a few times.
Even tho I know we won't be getting married for two years, I always asking when we're getting engaged and he says "off limits!" He wants the whole thing to be a surprise so he won't give any timeline (we're LDR and only see each other every few months so if he said 'next summer' it would ne super obvious what visit it would be).
He pretends to have the ring and proposal plans, even tho he doesn't (that I know of). Like on our last visit he asked how would you like to get engaged here and I was like eh, it'd be okay and he said oh you think it's a dumb place? nevermind I'll just propose later. And when we get to the airport (LDR) he's like well now you know it's not happening on this trip! Whatever, he can be such a goof. But he is really sweet about listening to all my not-subtle hints, so I can't complain.
@katiebeary: I agree with you! Mine tells me to stop talking about engagements/marriage in general beacause "the date is getting close, and I don't want you to ruin your surprise!"....That doesn't help me at all!!!
One of my not so subtle hints is to blatantly crack open a bridal site and go through dresses and say "hey, you, what do you think of this dress?" and him answering, in all honesty, "kinda makes her look fat...but you'd rock it..not too poofy though. I don't want to be marrying a big snowball".
I like reading all you guys' stories~ hehe. I hope all of your special days are getting close, because I know mine apparently is *soon*...ugh, what a tease.
xox.
SO is currently working overseas and has been there for nearly three weeks. (Hopefully he comes home soon!) I've known he's had the ring for a while, but he isn't aware that I know about it. Knowing that he has the ring is killing me, but I realize that it is important to him that it is kept a surprise. So I keep my mouth shut. We Skype every day, and I recently told him that he "owes me" for making me wait so long for him to come home (read: for a proposal). So I went on and on about how when he comes home, he had better do something nice for me! He starts smiling and can't hide the excitement on his face, and says, "Don't worry, I've got it covered."
How sweet, but it's driving me nuts! That's about the extent of the hinting I am allowed to do given the circumstances...
@yessy82: CONGRATS! lovely ring :)
How exciting for you!!!! Good luck when he returns!
Thanks... I love it and cant stop looking at it! :)
I like to make little witty quips.
(Scene: Downtown where families and couples are taking rides in horse-drawn carriages. His newly married brother's wife was talking about a visit from her family.)
SIL: My brother and his wife said they'd come downtown and take a carriage ride with us.
SO: All the married couples get a carriage ride.
Me: I guess we won't get one!
SIL: Bam!
(Scene:His dad speaking of calling to make a dinner reservation for he and his wife, SO's brother and wife, SO and myself.)
Dad: Look them up and we'll call them.
SO: Moseley, party of 6.
Me: Well 5, I'm not a Moseley.
(Later that night at aforementioned restaurant.)
SIL: Just wait till you're married. They leave piles of clothes all over the floor!
Me: I guess I'll have to wait, then.
(His mom who just got a new ring for her birthday, stumbles a bit on the sidewalk.)
Me: You okay?
Mom: I'm fine, I was just distracted looking at my ring.
Me: (in earshot of SO) That's right, when women get rings they stare at them a lot!
(Scene: our mutal friend is a temporary employee who has been working a few months at her job)
SO: (to friend) When do you become permanent?
Me: I ask myself the same question every day!
My favorite one is when we were visiting my familyr for Christmas. My little cousin gave her sister a $4 ring for Christmas, she was calling it a "diamond ring." My older cousin's wife, myself and my boyfriend were at the table when she was relaying the story.
Cousin-in-Law says, "Your sister must really love you if she gave you a diamond ring."
SO just stares at me. I say, "What?"
He goes, "I was expecting you to say something!"
I shamefully changed SO's laptop background picture to the Tacori I love :-) He was in the shower, came out, and turned on his computer to check for his grades from the semester....and saw the sparkly! Lol I also made quips regularly, but stopped once he really became serious about planning an engagement. Sometimes, when he says something about spending $$$ on his car or new guns, I'll clear my throat, and wiggle my left hand fingers in the air...he gets it. heheh
@WantToBeM.E.: Oh zing! Does he then go out and make the purchase anyhow??
@missjuli: Depends on what it is...he has a car he races at racetracks in NJ and MD, and I love it, but it's a money pit. He hasn't done a few things to it that he really wanted to, because he is waiting until after we're engaged. He is in the mindset of saving us from an apocalypse (too many end of the world TV shows), so he's set on buying bullets, survival items...but that's not frivalous, so I don't care much.
@WantToBeM.E.: My guy races too! Autocross and Rallycross here in Central New York. You're right. MONEY PIT! Not only does he beat his car up and therefore have to repair it more often, he also does things to it to make it go faster AND after all that, each race has an entry fee.
Yesss! Mine has a car that isn't street legal; he has 3 cars--his everyday car, his truck with a trailer to tow the race car, and his racecar....insane!!! He had all of this before we met, and I do really enjoy it, but he has come to realize where his priorities lie. He does 1/4 mile at 176 and under 8 seconds! We usually go to Englishtown(NJ), Atco(NJ), or Cecil County in MD. I love the fire suits!!
My "not-so-subtle" hints included blasting Beyonce's "Single Ladies (Put a Ring On It)" and directing my singing at him, and sending him this lovely picture:
@WantToBeM.E.: Oh my gosh! I thought my guy was insane enough to have 2 cars!! That's nuts! He has the Subaru which is street legal but constantly under modification. He had a big truck since the racer gets garaged for the winter but I encouraged him to get something more fuel efficient. So he traded the truck in for another Subaru. I hope your left hand will stop wiggling soon!
It's funny but there are moments of hope going on here. I choose to enjoy them, see them as cute and that this is obviously on his mind (and therefore look forward to whatever he has planned).
For example, the other night, we were watching "Just Go With It" and (SPOILER ALERT) Adam Sandler narrates at the end of the film. After describing her, some of the final words he says are "...I'm married to... a woman named Katherine." (which is my name, but spelt differently). At that point, my BF reached over and 'tweaked' my nose! I simply smiled and enjoyed the moment.
I'm finding it's much better to let him wonder what I'm thinking, than actually tell him.
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All of us bees who were L.I.W. before, or currently waiting (like myself) have had those terrible waiting days where you just wanted to stare into the soul of your SO and scream, "PUT A RING ON MY FINGER, GOD DAMNIT!" Of course, the majority of us have had more of an "adult" approach to hinting at our desire for most important piece of jewlery we will ever own.
What are some ways you've dropped the "not-so-subtle" hints to your man? And what are some things he says that make you feel like engagement is being dangled right in front of your face, but too far to reach? I've shared mine below:
1. I wear a fake, sparkly, OH-SO shiny ring on my left ring finger. I'll (not so) casually say, "I need a new ring! This one turns my finger all green!'
2. All of my lady friends keep getting engaged and posting their new sparklies on Facebook, so I browse through all of their ring/wedding ideas pictures with my man right behind me.
3. I HATE calling my man "boyfriend" -- it sounds so juvenile! He actually dislikes it, too. So on occasion, I will call him, "Boy of friend; friend of boy" to be silly, and he'll reply with, "Hus of band, band of husb" and/or "Fi-an-ceeee" I do this PURPOSELY just to get that warm and fuzzy feeling.
4. To coincide with the above, my man often calls me "baby mama", "wifey", "fiance" He even introduces me to people as his fiance! Does this make anyone else want to punch your SO in the head!? It's sweet, BUT STOP TEASING ME!!! :( Lol!
5. My mother adores my man! So whenever I call back home every other week, I sit faithfully at his side so he can hear my mother and I talk about engagement and wedding details.
6. I told my SO that my cousin is getting engaged soon and wants me to help her plan (she's really not getting married). I used this as an excuse to bring up rings and dresses, point and go, "OOOH!!"
So tell me, what do you do to catch your SO's attention for some momentary escape from being hush-hush about engagement? And what are some things he does or says that tortures you in your waiting process? Tell me all of your crazy attempts, my little bees!
P.S. I love that there is a board especially for those of us who are waiting. You have no idea how much reading these make my bad waiting days turn into giddy, fun ones!