- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Sorry if this doesn’t make sense and is hard to follow. I’m venting and ranting and asking for advice all at the same time.
A little background info. My Uncle’s ex wife died a couple months ago from stage 4 liver cancer that had spread to a number of other organs. They had a 12 year old daughter together. She has no female “mother” figure in her life anymore. Her dad tries his hardest, but it can’t be the same without having her mom there anymore. I don’t know what to do, I’m 22, 10 years older than her…and my family told me after her mom passed away that she is going to need someone to help her through anything she may need a female for. Well, my Mamaw, Mom, Aunt & myself all made ourselves available to her, but she doesn’t want to talk to anyone which I understand. Anyways…
She’s always been a very rude child, she had to be the center of attention, always had to get her way, etc. When she was with her mom (they shared custody) she would make her go outside and play, eat healthy, respect people, and so on. But when she was with her dad (my uncle), he wanted to be the “nice” parent and let her do and eat WHATEVER she wanted. So now that her mom isn’t here, she’s gaining weight (she’s over weight for a 12 year old) and is seriously SO MEAN to people. Everyone said she was just being mean because her mom died, but she was like that before…but now it’s just amplified.
She recently got sick with a high fever and a viral infection (mono) and had to be transferred from our local hospital to a bigger facility 80 miles away. It was just her and her dad there, and he wanted me and my mom to come down to be with her and cheer her up. So we got a hotel and stayed the night. I also went to the mall and got her some expensive nail polish sets from Sephora (she’s a beauty junkie, and I knew she’d appreciate something from Sephora…) but she didn’t seem to actually appreciate it at all. She said thanks, but it kinda hurt my feelings because I thought she would like it more. When she opened the bag, it was almost like she was disappointed there wasn’t more. I mean, Sephora is expensive! Damn.
My mom was being so nice to her, wetting the wash cloths on her face and neck, but my cousin would just grunt at her and give her evil looks. My mom helped give her a shower and wash her hair, and my mom said she just stood there and expected my mom to do everything for her. She was snapping at her dad who was absolutely babying her. She wouldn’t even feed herself, he had to do it. You could just tell she was eating this up. She had a giant rats nest in the back of her hair that I had to brush out, and she kept yelling and moaning how bad I was hurting her the whole time. She was stomping on my moms feet when she would come near where she was sitting while I was brushing out her hair. Whenever someone would say ANYTHING to her, she would either completely ignore them or give them an evil look and grunt. It was just out of control how she was acting.
My mom and I wanted to go to Target to pick up some stuff, and my cousin kept telling us “You know I like makeup” “They have eyeshadow pallets I want there” etc etc. I wasn’t going to spend anymore money on her, but my mom said she’d get her some stuff. Well, all we could find in the brand she wanted was a small eye shadow “dramatic” lid kit. When my mom gave it to her, she took it out, looked at it, put it back in the bag and threw it to the other side of the bed. I was shocked! Her dad made her say thank you, but you could tell it was just killing her to say it.
I feel like a bad person for saying how rude and mean this girl is, esp. since her mom just passed away, but I can’t help it! We took time out of our week to come down and help her and she was so unappreciative. When we left, my mom said “I love you!” and she said “I love me, too” in the rudest way ever. I know the whole trip hurt my moms feelings, too. I don’t know what to do, I mean she’s always acted this way but it’s just getting worse and worse!