Post # 1
I knew this whole wedding process had been too drama-free. 🙂
I have multi-racial, multi body type bridal party. This means that it has been pretty dificult to find a color that suits all of their skintones and a dress that suits all of their body shapes. I ended up picking yellow. I felt resolved in that choice and felt quite proud for picking a color that will make each girl look good. Everyone likes yellow!
Well… Not everyone likes yellow. And my maid of honor and juinor bridesmaid(a mother and daughter team) told me so emphatically. I got a Jayebaby beat down over that color. So I went home, revamped our color scheme, and chose teal. Everyone likes teal!
well… Not everyone likes teal. In fact, some people hate teal. My junior bridesmaid said she would rather die than wear teal. My maid of honor made the “blech” sound. This was 6 hours before our bridal appointment. And then she cancelled altogether. Two of my other(completely supportive and amazing) bridesmaids would be getting fitted for the dress we picked this week. So it was just me, Future Sister-In-Law, and my friend Kim. While they were trying on dresses, I realized that it would be really hard to get all of these ladies into one dress. I also realized that the girls would wear coral. I decided on coral. I like coral.
I felt so happy that I picked a color at all. I usually am a “Whatever you think is best!” type person. I hate controversy and people being mad at me. So it is a big deal that I picked a color at all.
My maid of honor called me towards the end of the appt and asked how it was going. I told her that we chose coral. She FLIPPED OUT. “Why the F would you pick coral! That is an ugly color! It’s F-ing heinous! I can’t believe you would do this!” She is yelling at me and it’s so loud you can hear her through the phone! I was mortified! I hate looking that way! I wanted to hang up. I tried calming her down, to no avail. My friend Kim was just staring, wide-eyed. She kept shaking her head saying, “That is not a friend.” I got off the phone and had to save face by saying “That’s just how we love each other!”, smiling, and moving on quickly. But I was humiliated. I just can’t shake that feeling. And I was so proud of myself for picking coral on my own. 🙁
I’m just bummed. She wrote Fiance on facebook this morning and said, “If you still want us in the wedding, (Junior Bridesmaid) and I will lovingly be in the wedding wearing yellow.”
At this point, I’m not even sure if I care that they show up.
Post # 3
Oh wow, it is one day that they have to wear a color they hate. Get over it. I would slap ’em.
Post # 4
Holy moly. My jaw dropped while reading this. It sounds like your Maid/Matron of Honor is acting like a five year old. At this point, I’d tell her, “MOH, I’ve selected coral as a dress. Had you shown up to the appointment, maybe you would have been able to voice your opinion, but you chose not to. If not wearing a color you don’t like is more important to you than our (x year) friendship, perhaps it would be better if you attended as a guest.”
Sorry you’re going through this!
Post # 5
Wow. Sounds like she has some personal issues with coral.
Post # 6
OMG! That is AWFUL! Sorry you had to deal with that! If I were you though I would tell them they can wear whatever they like the day of the wedding because they’re no longer in it. It is YOUR day! My girls would wear brown paper bags if that’s what I wanted for my wedding. Anyone who doesn’t support your decisions for your big day doesn’t deserve the honor of being a part of it. Hope everything works out for you!
Post # 7
I don’t understand. She has to wear a color she doesn’t love for a few hours, 1 day. Is she going to lose a limb because of this? Will the world end? If it was a job and she was told to wear a coral colored uniform, I bet she wouldn’t dare say half the things she said to you over the phone.
It’s impossible to pick a color and style that everyone will love. If the Maid/Matron of Honor is too special to make this one small sacrifice (??) for you, relieve her of her duties and she can come as a guest, dressed in whatever color makes her day.
Post # 8
Wait, who is getting married? You are. At this point, Maid/Matron of Honor should kindly be reminded that people who cancel on the appointment aren’t allowed an opinion and if she and Jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man still WANT to be in the wedding an apology is in order first. And preferably not over Facebook.
Post # 9
You need to tell them its done, thanks for accepting the position but since she can’t handle it you are going to replace her. This is your day not hers. Take control
Post # 10
What in the world?! Who gets screaming-mad at a bride about a COLOR? It’s not like she’d already bought and paid for another dress?!
Post # 11
What a great example for her daughter. I’d tell her that if wearing the dress you chose is too much of a burden, you’d understand that she can’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 24
@jayebaby: I’d tell her to hit the bricks. You don’t need someone with that attitude to stand up for you and be a maid of honor.
Post # 12
It sounds like has issues period. Something is not right about flipping out over a color. It isn’t her wedding and that is not fair to you, you didn’t pick throw up green or some horrible color. They are all pretty colors and it seems the only one who voiced issues with the colors were those two. I would just not include them in the wedding, they made it more than easy to do so.
Post # 13
Wow.. it is not her decision on what color she wears.. her job is to support the bride and wear whatever dress is picked out proudly… that would irritate me to no end.
Post # 14
Whats wrong with coral?? Aren’t shades of coral wildly in right now?
I like @abbie017: ‘s approach on the topic.
Post # 15
@jayebaby: Oh no! I’m soo soo soo sorry about that! How humiliating! 🙁
Definatly stick to whatever YOU WANT. If you fell in love with coral stick with it. Politely tell them they can suck it because they’ve been no help and completely non-supportive since the beginning. If they drop and you have 2, well those 2 love you so much that you don’t need the drama the other 2 bring.