Post # 1
I found out a week ago that my BFF and Maid/Matron of Honor is moving across country in a week and my wedding is only a few months away. She’ll be back for the wedding but now I have to plan my own bridal shower and bachelorette party and who knows what else. I have a “day -of” coordinator, but there’s still a ton of things that I don’t even know where to begin to do alone.
I do have other friends that have offered to help, but my day is on a holiday weekend and I know people aren’t going to want to be stuck making favors and flowers arrangements all weekend long.
Plus, I know the reason why she’s leaving. But part of me still feels a little hurt. I haven’t said anything to her, and I don’t know if I should…
Post # 3
I’m sorry you are losing your close friend and Maid/Matron of Honor so close to your big day. However, I don’t think that you really should be angry or upset with her for moving, since, obviously, it is in no way related to your friendship or your wedding.
As long as she is still able to show up on the day of the wedding in her gown and be with you that day, I think she has fulfilled her primary duties. I did not ask any of my bridesmaids to help me do anything else other than to go with me a couple of times when I went to look for my gown and theirs.
Regarding a potential shower or other parties for you, perhaps your other bridesmaids will take the lead? It’s likely that your Maid/Matron of Honor would still be willing to help with this, even long distance. (For example, most of my bridesmaids and one of my two matrons of honor lived out of state. One of my out-of-state bridesmaids coordinated with my in-state Maid/Matron of Honor and offered to make favors for my shower and to ship them to my Maid/Matron of Honor.)
I hope things work out for you both.
Post # 4
@MrsACarpenter: My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in Montana, (Myself in Oregon) And I think that we are doing a great job together planning my wedding! She is still planning my Bridal Shower, I am going to go and look at a place that she is interested in having the Shower, But she is MORE help then anyone that lives close to me. As long as your Maid/Matron of Honor is coming for your wedding, then you shouldn’t worry about it too much. Atleast she is still able to come for the wedding. Don’t stress it 🙂
Post # 5
Sorry..this happend to me and I cried and cried for a whole day! lol. You cannot plan your own shower, etc. Let someone else do it, I know it’s alot to ask but they are your friends!!
Post # 6
I guess I’m just stressed because everything is supposed to happen in a few weeks and her focus is on her move, which I understand. But she’s basically dropped the ball on everything else. I knew she was having a hard time and I didn’t give her any other responsibilities besided planning the shower and helping me make stuff that weekend.
I know things will work out ok. My oldest daughter is a bridesmaid and I will ask her to host the shower at the end of next month, once we get settled in our new home. But the rest of the bridal party is too young (our kids). I’m sure my mom will pitch in too. But the bulk of the responsibility will fall on me.