- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
I guess I’m just venting here
I asked my best friend to be my maid of honour, like a year after we were engaged, we waited until we set a date before asking.
She and her boyfriend of almost 6 years broke up about 2 years ago now, she and I were really close when she was with him, but since they broke up, she’s become a different person. She was so reserved, even prudish before but now that she’s single and all of her friends are getting married and having kids etc, she’s looking for the same and jumping on every guy who feins interest in her, thinking it could be the right guy. And it never is, she has such bad taste in men, and her sense of morals has just dropped completely off the face of this planet. (She ran into a guy she’d gone to university with and had ahuge crush on back then, and he said he had a girlfriend but that he didn’t love her so it was totally cool to cheat. She slept with him several times in a week or two, knowing full well he had a girlfriend, basically saying he was that one in the wrong because he was the one who was in the relationshop. She kept defending herself by saying she felt bad for doing it, but it wasnt’ her fault and he really wanted the sex) Anyway, she keeps being played by one guy after the other after the other, all of them say they want something long term, so she’ll start seeing one guy and then another prospect will come up and she’ll dump one for the other, or see both of them while she makes her decision, she even had a f-friend for a while, and slept with HIS best friend because she though maybe it could turn into a relationship. It didn’t she hurt both of them, and neither of them talk to her anymore and then she acts like she’s the victim.
Anyway, those are just examples of the type of person she’s become. A couple of her friends have said they don’t want to be friends with someone who has no morals like that, someone so self centered and egotistical, and while it’s super harsh, I know why they said that. I will NEVER ‘unfriend’ her, but good god, grow the f up, girl!!!
My issue here, (sorry for being so long-winded) is that she keeps blowing me off. She’ll either tell me she’s busy time after time after time, or make plans and then say something came up (really, some guy would show interest and she’d rather go out with some prospect than see us) or tell me she doesn’t have time to see all her friends, and we need to have some kind of rotation. (!!!!!!) I’m so upset with her (not as a maid of honour, but as a best friend), I feel like she’s just ignoring us, that we’re just not important enough for her to show any interest at all. We haven’t done anything wedding related yet, we have hardly spoken about it even though we’ve been engaged for 2 years already (I hardly have time to get a word in when we talk on the phone, she has so much to tell me about her own life) so I don’t believe she’s just avoiding me because of this. I have no real expectations from my bridal party other than to go dress shopping together, and show up at the wedding, so I’m not being a bridezilla or anything. I don’t want to dump her as a friend, I dont’ want to un-ask her to be in my wedding, I just want to reconnect with her and I’d like to not have her just go on an on and on and on about all these guys she’s seeing and how complicated she has made things for herself.