- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My husband(we have been married 6 months, together for 3 Years.) called me yesterday right when I got off work to tell me he talked to his mom and she said she thinks that I don’t like her and the family thinks I don’t like them. I’m not really sure who all this includes. They are a tight knit Italian family who spend a lot of time together. She couldn’t give any reasons why she felt like this so I am very confused. I am a reserved person by nature so I come off as stand-offish to some but I will open up. There isn’t really much I can do to change this. This is my personality. I know that my husband said that sometime back one of his aunts felt I didn’t like them because I was quiet…ok… They live about 30 min west of us. The majority of my MIL side of the family including her and her family live in the same town and they see each other all the time. My hubby’s cousin who is about 25 she is younger just bought a house in the same town with her longtime boyfriend. So all my husband aunts are over there all the time helping her or whatever. This cousin of his also has no friends really so all her and her bf do is hang out with the family. Maybe we are getting compared to them? My husband and I live in a very nice neighborhood. But for whatever reason his family thinks that we live in a bad town. This is really crazy to me. I am of mixed race. MIL told my husband that, “I need to remember that he is white.” WTF. Might I add that this side of the family is sort of racist. I have been made uncomfortable a number of times but have tried to just ignore it. Now thats a little background for you. I know my husband doesn’t really go and spend time with his family as much as he did when he still lived at home, which was three years ago! This is partially due to our busy schedules and partially because he doesn’t want to. Perhaps I’m getting blamed for this? The things his mom did say were like, “Why don’t you invite dad over to watch the games?” My husband usually watches alone and I tell him all the time to invite his dad over. We took in a stray sometime back and I know his mom was upset she didn’t know about it at first. We decided to keep it to ourselves because we didn’t want anyones opinion on the matter. His mom is overly opinionated and intrusive. I don’t mind her but I don’t like people in my business and giving me unwanted opinions. We were planning to move about 20 min East which would put us further from them. This is not to get away from them this is just a decision we made to be closer to the city. I’m just afraid that now that I know this info of what my MIL thinks she’s gonna think Im trying to move away on purpose. And the town we are moving to she says has gangs. There aren’t any gangs! I also will be missing my husbands younger brothers birthday for a bachelorette party. I just feel like every little thing I do from now on is gonna be extra judged and they will think everything is because I don’t like them. Help. What do I do?