Post # 1
Just thought I’d share because I think it puts weddings in perspective a bit.
We’ve found out my MIL is dying and has been given up to 9 months to live. We orgininally weren’t getting married till next year but she is too important to us for us to miss the chance to have her at our wedding. My FI and I have been together 8 years and we lived with my MIL for a year so I know her very well.
So we are planning a wedding in 3 1/2 months. It means we’ve really concentrated on what’s important to us. Our friends and family and good hospitality. Obviously our wedding in 3 months time is going to be very different from the one we’d planned for next year. But the core things are the same. And in many ways I’m relieved we can concentrate on these things rather than get caught up in too much hype.
Don’t let the stress get you and hold your loved ones close
Post # 3
Obviously nothing I say can ease your pain. Enjoy your time with her and enjoy your wedding.
Post # 4
I’m so, so sorry! What a great decision to move the wedding forward so you can have her there. Obviously you will have a lot on your mind so if you ever find yourself drawing a blank when it comes to wedding planning, let us know. The Hive is full of great ideas.
Have a big hug from me and give your FI one too!
Post # 5
@cobaltbluebride: I’m sure it brings your MIL great happiness that she can see your wedding and be there in this hard time. I am very sorry to hear that she is so ill, but I am also happy for you and your FI that she will be able to come.
3 months may not seem like heaps of time, but at least you have less time to stress over the minor things and constantly have it in your mind that your MIL may miss out on being there. I wish this didn’t have to happen and I hope you have the most special wedding day possible xx
Post # 6
@cobaltbluebride: I hope you have an amazing day, full of love and amazing memories.
Lots of love and hugs
Post # 7
i dont know what to say. i saw this early and my heart goes out to you and your family. be grateful that you hve the chance to move the wedding forward to include her, as there are many people out there, brides and grooms that lose parents with no warning.
much love, and hugs. you are so amazing for putting it all together so fast. i am sure that it will be a beautiful wedding full of love <3
Post # 8
i’m sorry about your mil but you are so right about perspective….stinks that usually something terrible happening is how you usually ‘find’ it
on the bright side…enjoy this time planning w her and gaving her there. you csn absolutely have a fab wedding w 3m planning (and you might get a few deals by vendors who are still available)
Post # 9
I am so sorry to hear of this! My FI lost his mother last year and I would give anything to have her there in October. I love her dearly. We weren’t engaged at the time and hindsight is always 20/20. I think the biggest gift you can give to your MIL and yourselves is to make sure she can be there.
Post # 10
My close friend lost her father a week before her wedding. They’d hoped he’d hang on long enough, but in the month leading up to the wedding he took a turn for the worst. They did this beautiful “marriage blessing” with just them, her father, her mother, and the preacher who would be officiating their wedding.
It hurts to lose someone close to you, especially when you’re getting married (such a happy time), and it really does put a whole new perspective on things. (Were those flowers that weren’t exactly the shade of purple you wanted really that important in the long run?) I’m glad it sounds like you’ll be able to celebrate with you MIL. Enjoy this time.
Post # 11
Thank you all for your lovely comments and kind wishes. We will do our best to enjoy our time with her and have a wonderful wedding
Post # 12
Great idea to move it up. My heart goes out but I’m sure it is the best decision and you will be happy you made it. I’m sure it will bring more joy than inconvinience to you and your family.