Post # 1
I moved in with my now husband three years ago, and over time have found out that three of the painting in the house was given to him by his mother (and yes, I did not like them before I found out who they were from). Two are HUGE- one hanging in the livingroom and the other in the spare bedroom. I haven’t decorated for my own reasons, and now for the wedding she gives us- three more items to display in our home- a large ornate picture frame that I am sure most people would like, a picture of hearts with words, and a plaque with the word family with definition to which she said to put it where my husband could see these things everyday. They are all really nice, but I don’t have the same vision for our home as she does. The last thing she gave us I hid it in our bedroom “so that we could treasure it personally.” I really don’t want to start a museaum of items from his mother in our bedroom- the kitchen table isn’t that cofortable for extra-corricular activities.
Post # 3
@Chelle-Lee: I don’t feel that you are obligated to display art that is chosen for you by someone else.
Do you have a room that you never use? or rarely use? I would hang it all in there gallery style and declare it to be your art gallery.
Post # 4
@julies1949: +1. i’d put everything in a spare room. or put them away, and bring them out when she’s coming over.
Post # 5
Too bad you guys can not just tell her no more decorations. or can you? Have you and your guy considered this?
Post # 6
I would tell her that you have plans to redecorate the home (whether that is really true or not), and that you are still choosing colours and themes so you aren’t sure if it will go with your vision, but thank her for her generosity. That is kind but also to the point that you may not appreciate her gifts, and she would be dense not to understand your message. But what does your DH think of her gifts? He would be able to say things to her that you might not be able to say without coming across as rude. Everyone forgives something their child says, so perhaps he could gently suggest that you two don’t need any further home decorating items?
Post # 7
@Chelle-Lee: I also put extra art (or just the stuff I don’t particularly enjoy) in a spare bedroom. Then guests get to see it & I don’t have to do the whole storage-shuffle-hide game if they come over. Also, regifts…. Just not to anyone related to her or her family (friends & coworkers would do the trick though)
Post # 8
we have been remodeling the home slowly since I have moved in (3 yrs). We completely gutted the kitchen, walls, stove, cabinets- and put it all back together again- just him and I. repainted the livingroom, ripped out the carpet in livingroom and put down wood floors. We have alot more we want to do. Between that, growing our own garden, working and then coming home to cook a home cooked meal from scratch, and oh, yeah, planning that wedding, Who the capital H, e, double hockey sticks has time to hang decor and pictures on the wall?! Much less afford it- new floors and cabinets aren’t cheap. So she came for a visit about a year ago, and had made a comment about the bare walls, and of course I just said I’ve been busy and left it at that. Then the gifts of wall art started comming in. Ugh.
I found a way to incorporate these into the current thing I have going on. I’m just going to have to say it straight- no more decor. period. And just figure out how to get rid of that big painting in the livingroom. Maybe it will have an accident.