My MIL keeps asking when we’re going to have a baby…

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That’s tough.  My husband and I aren’t quite 25, and my mother-in-law asks every time we see her when we are going to have kids.  She even wants to prepare a room in her house for sleep-overs! Oh, and this was after telling her multiple times that it will likely be 5+ years before kids appear!

Anymore, I just say something like “We just got married!  We’ll have kids when we’re ready!”  And then quickly change the subject…

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Have your husband speak to her about it. If she doesnt listen when you tell her that you both arent ready, then thats all I can think to do. Have him sit her down and explain that it bothers both of you when she constantly nags about having grandchildren. She might not realize how much it bothers you (though clearly it does). Sometimes moms can be pushy and think that if they mention something enough, it will make you change your mind. Stand firm.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you have to be very blunt and honest and tell her that you do not want to hear from her anything about you having babies until you bring the subject up.

we are not planning on having children so we’ve told our parents, my mom was ok but his mom is very disappointed – my greek MIL had their priest tell me while at her sisters funeral that my role as a wife and woman is to create babies just as god intended *roll eyes*

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Here’s your perfect response to her when are you having kids question…

“When people stop asking.”

Post # 9
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Wannabee

just say “it’s better we tell you when we are ready rather than you asking us repeatedly, again and agin”.  Keep repeating your answer everytime she says it.  Pushy people as a whole need to be dealt with like this.  If she carries on stand up walk away and leave the room. She does not need to prepare.  You and your husband need to prepare when you are ready without her supervision.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think it is best just to keep saying “when we are ready,” and quickly change the subject… even if you have to keep doing it repeatedly.  It may be annoying, but I think any other way could be taken the wrong way and it will be easier in the long run to just suck it up and try to not let it get to you too much.  

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