Post # 1
I had not been on here much in the previous few weeks because I was helping my husband and BIL take care of their mother, who needed 24 hour care. She had had dementia for a few years, and it had gotten quite worse. Hospice had been in for the last week, so we knew it was soon. It was my time to watch her this morning, and she went whilst I held her and talked to her. She was so ill, and I know she is with so many, whom she missed, now. I am still in shock.
Post # 3
@Schrodingers-Car: She died holding the hand of someone she loved. Many die alone and broken.
You all gave her dignity in death.
May she rest in peace.
BIG HUGS to you.
Post # 4
I work in Hospice care- so I know what an honor and privilage it is to be with someone as they pass from this life. I am sorry for your loss, but dementia is an awful disease and you can take some comfort in the fact that she no longer suffers. Take care of yourself!
Post # 5
@Schrodingers-Car: I’m so so sorry. Big hugs to you. She was blessed to have you by her side when she passed.
Post # 6
I’m sorry for your loss. You will never have any regrets about not being there for her.
Post # 7
I am so very sorry for your family’s loss.
Post # 8
@Schrodingers-Car: My prayers are with you. So sorry for your loss.
Post # 9
@Schrodingers-Car: I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 10
I am so sorry for your loss. You were with her when she needed somebody the most, and that’s a big thing. It’s a privilege, and something that you’ll be able to hold on to in the future.
Post # 11
i am so sorry to hear of your loss. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Post # 12
I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 13
Thank you so much, Bees. I wonder when the shock will wear off, but I am scared it will be when I am alone. I do feel very priveledged, but sad that I could be the only family with her due to jobs. I am so happy she is no longer suffering, but I know I will break down a bit. Thank you guys so much; it means a great deal.
Post # 14
@Schrodingers-Car: My heart goes out to you and your family. I think in situations like this people to a certain extent choose when to go. Your MIL must have felt very comfortable with you there and made her decision. She may have also choosen to wait until her sons weren’t there because she thought it would be too difficult for them, so I don’t think you should feel sad that they weren’t able to be with her.
Post # 15
@Goofball: Thank you so much *hugs* I am still feeling not myself 🙁
Post # 16
@Schrodingers-Car: So sorry for your loss, I’m sure it’s hard for you to have it all sink in. What a wonderful family she had.