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Totally crappy. We did presents like that after our wedding, but it was Christmas just 2 months after we got married.
She definitely should not have waited so long to give them. Seems like she did it on purpose...
Very very crappy...who does that? Just share your pics with us! We love them!!! Lol!
Phew, I’m happy you guys agree! I was totally expecting to get “stop being so sensitive” comments, lol. DH feels the same way I do and we discussed it with my mom and she thought it was crappy, too. I’m interested to see what my MIL thought of the whole thing. I’m sure it will come up in conversation the next time we chat.
What? People are allowed to give whatever gifts they want. I do not see how them sending pictures of a completely different wedding steals the limelight from your presents, and, subsequently your wedding. "We had to share our wedding with other big events" <~~~~ I think you're still sore about this, which is ridiculous. Life goes on surrounding weddings. It's especially sad that you're slighting your SIL for delaying to print her wedding photos because she was self conscious. She had 3 years to print hers? So?
I get so infuriated by brides who expect their wedding to be THE wedding and the only wedding going on. Her present does not "take away" from your present in the same way that nothing can take away from your wedding except for your own bad mood.
I think its kind of crappy. Not like hold a grudge over serious, but anonymous vent on the internet- sure!
What @eeniebeans said. Vent here, then move on :) I would be annoyed too, so if you're sensitive I guess I am too! Haha
I'm chill. I just wanted to give you the other side since everyone else seemed to agree with you adamently up until I said something. I know it's just an internet vent. I was just heralding the other side that you admitted might be you being overly sensitive.
@MrsBroccoli: Well maybe everyone else thought it was crappy, too.
I would be annoyed, but maybe her seeing everyone enjoy your pictures inspired her to finally oder hers and get over how she felt about herself in them. I doubt she was doing to upstage you (unless this is a re-occuring situation) besides I am sure everyone was more excited to see yours since they are new!
How obnoxious! We kind of had something similiar happen. DH and I got married in May and his brother got married in September. When we went to their house for Christmas, his mother had an envelope and inside were pictures from their wedding that she was looking at. DH was so upset because the one thing his mom had asked for were pictures from our wedding and everyone knew we were getting that for them (along with other gifts) so when we showed up and they were looking at all the pictures his brother just gave them, it was a little disheartening. But thankfully we were one up and had put all our pictures in a super nice album. Not to mention, we gave them 120 photos of everything throughout the day from getting ready to the last dance. All they had given were a few pictures of the bride and groom. FTW! lol
@UpstateCait:Ususally I would say whats the big deal? Relax, other people on earth can have a life and wedding too. But in this case,I don't think it is appropiate. The wedding was 3 years ago, nobody wants those old ass pictures as a gift. A wedding this past summer, sure... but 3 years ago is a bit too much. Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery...lol
What eeniebeans said for sure. It's not like you're making a big deal of this IRL, it's an internet vent. Vent away! If you were freaking out on the SIL in person, I'd think you were being oversensitive and weird. That's what the Bee is for. :)
Exactly. It’s not like I’m telling me SIL that she’s a bitch for giving their 3 year old pictures as a Christmas gift. It was just disappointing since their wedding was years ago and ours was so recent. They had numerous opportunities to give their pictures but they opted to do it now for some reason. Even though my IL’s would never say anything, I’m sure it did take away from our picture though, we did also get them an iPad for Christmas so a couple pictures can’t really compete with that, lol. I’ll certainly get over it but I just wanted to vent.
I just don't get why it has to be a competition, Re: we did also get them an iPad for Christmas so a couple pictures can’t really compete with that
I'm glad you aren't saying anything to her, but I still don't think you should tal about it to your MIL (I assume the SIL's mother). That seems like you're talking behind her back.
@MrsBroccoli: She’s my BIL’s wife. Chances are my MIL will bring it up anyway and then we’ll have our chat.
@UpstateCait: I get it. Keep in mind, though, that she seems like the silly one. This is one of those things that I would just kind of raise my eyebrow at Fi as it was happening, then forget about.
On the other hand, maybe you really inspired her and she hadn't really ever thought about getting those pictures printed.
I agree with Miss long coat. I think she was probably inspired. I would take it as a compliment.
Meh. I totally get why you would be annoyed. If anything though, other people are probably wondering the same thing as you. But honestly, I sort of feel bad for her because she obviously doesn't realize it's a little like she is copying you, and trying to be like, " hey remember we got married too!". haha
Three years later? Who does that?! Sounds like someone was jealous of the attention you were getting for your wedding. I don't think you're ridiculous for being peeved about it, nor are you making it 'all about your wedding' by thinking they missed their chance.
Ugh family *rolls eyes* it's all you can do, right?
Wtf?!? Your SIL sounds just like my FCIL! Are they the same person?! My FCIL would soo do this (she probably will). She had a very short engagement. The whole thing was a whirlwind, and she is very sad letting go of it all (I'm sure I will be, too). It sucks they decided to do that to you. I know it might seem so petty to some, but everyone wants their little bit of wedding spotlight, and everyone deserves it. You said they had a lot going on when you got married so you guys weren't the main focus. It is so strange that they would give out wedding pics THREE years after the fact. That does have a tinge of jealousy to it, IMO.
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This year for Christmas we gave most of our family members framed pictures from our wedding (among other things). One of my IL’s gifts was a nice framed pic of DH’s side from our wedding. We had it framed and matted so that it would be display worthy. Well, BIL & SIL felt that this was the Christmas when they would give their framed wedding pictures as gifts, too. It wouldn’t be so bad if they weren’t married almost 3 years ago! They had multiple Christmas’ where they could have given their pictures but for some reason they opted to do it this year, after knowing that that’s what we’d be doing as well (you know, from our wedding 2 months ago!). It annoys the shit out of me. They waited until RIGHT after we got our wedding pictures back to print theirs. I think that SIL was jealous of the attention our pictures were getting so she had to throw her old ones into the mix. It was 3 goddamn years ago! They had their chance but because SIL hated how she looked in their pictures, she put off ordering them for years. Why she had to do it right when we were getting ours back is beyond me.
Maybe it’s silly to be worked up over this but it just annoys me. We had to share our wedding with other big events that were happening in his family’s world so I guess I was just looking forward to having a little wedding attention this Christmas. Instead we got to relive their wedding that happened 3 years ago. Makes tons of sense (insert eye roll). I’m sure it’s the only child coming out in me but I think it was kind of crappy on their part.