Post # 1
I have 2 BMs and a MOH… Pretty standard. two of them are my very best friends and one is my FSIL. My FSIL and I are NOT close. She and I butt heads frequently, and she has not offered help of any kind, which is fine. I had my besties to fall back on right? wrong. Both my MOH and BM graduated college this month, and life is taking them places no one could have imagined. One of them needed to move home, and the other just got a job offer in NY. Please don’t misunderstand me I am very happy for her…. she is really excited, but she and I were planning a summer together (which we have never got to do) and working on wedding stuff, and I was so excited to have my BFF/MOH so close and with not much else to do…. now she is off to NY for a summer job and will be back at the end of the summer in pleanty of time for the wedding, but still I am finding it hard to be super pumped for her. I really wanted her here. Now I kinda feel like I am planning a wedding by myself. my FI is 3 hours away my BFF/MOH is a plane ride away, and my other close friend and BM is like a 5 hour drive into the middle of nowhere away.
Just feeling kinda like what is the point. I mean I love my FI and want to be married and I really want a nice day, and I like wedding planning overall it just gets to be alot when you feel like you are doing it all by yourself. It is something I should be sharing….
feeling unmotivated and unexcited about all the up coming tasks.
Post # 3
If your best friend had already made plans with you to spend the summer wedding planning, she will shine through! Otherwise just talk to her about it–I can understand your feelings though. You can long-distance plan…. that’s what internet and weddingbee is for! 🙂 Chin up! And happy planninng!
Post # 4
I agree with hid-den!
Google docs are super easy to share as are links, pinterest accounts, etc.
My BFF isn’t local either, but we email every day and share ideas constantly.
Post # 5
Give your self permission to be sad about your girlfriends moving away. Then set a deadline, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with life.
“The point” is you are planing a marriage, not just a wedding. There are plenty of brides iin the same boat and you will do just fine. It’s just a normal reaction to adjusting to the change in expectations.You can always commuicate with your girlfriends via email and skype and still share the excitement.
And, of course , you can always turn to the “bee”.
Post # 6
@kryje003: (((HUGS))) it’ll be alright. I can understand where you’re coming from, but at the same time, you also now have excuses to go and visit them on the weekends! (IF it’s feasable, of course).
If it helps any, none of my girls (2 BMS, 1 MOH) are involved in the wedding planning. My FI is only helpful when I bring it up (which is rather frequent, lol). So, I’m pretty much on my own also.
It’s not much consulation, but at least you can call/email your girls AND you have the WeddingBee, too!!!!