Post # 1
We have six people in our wedding party. Three gals and three dudes. Turns out, four of those people are couples.
Okay I’m already confusing myself.
My two of my girls, MOH and College-Pal, are the significant others of two of the groomsmen, Dude 1 and Dude 2.
On the guys’ side, there’s Dude 1, Dude 2, and Best Man.
Typically, the best man escorts the maid of honor. But MOH is dating Dude 1 and College-Pal is engaged to Dude 2, so I’d much rather them escort each other.
So I thought, let the couples escort each other and Best Man can escort my third bridesmaid, Fiance’s Sister. No big deal, right?
BUT then Fiance’s Sister would be in the "Maid of Honor" position during the processional and at the altar. I really dig Fiance’s Sister, and she’s pretty cool, but my maid of honor she ain’t.
Would it be weird to have the bridesmaids and groomsmen shift places once they get to the front?
Post # 3
I think shifting once they get up there might look a little awkward (in my mind this means standing in one place when they get to the front, but then stand somewhere else once the ceremony starts). However, if I’m getting the couples right, I think you could have the men and the women line up in opposite directions and it could look cool. Best Man and 3rd bridesmaid come down together: he stands closest to the groom and she stands at the opposite end. Then the second couple comes down and takes the middle spots, and finally the MOH and her significant other, with the MOH standing closest to the center and him taking the last position on the men’s side.
Or you can stick to the "traditional" plan and I’ll be they’ll all live. My fiance was the Best Man while I was just a bridesmaid when two of our friends got married. He escorted the MOH and I was escorted by another groomsmen. We survived being apart for the 25 minute ceremony; I’m sure your friends will as well.
Post # 4
you just have to decide if you want the couples together enough to have the processional be a bit odd? It would be a little weird for the MOH and Best Man not to walk up together – people will assume the last ones down the aisle are them – but i dont think many will notice shifting at the front.
Post # 5
Let them process down as couples. When they get to the front, they just stand in the right spot (when FSIL gets to the altar she just stands in the last position while best man takes the first position, and so on).
It’s not like they have to line up in the order they arrived then obviously shuffle around like musical chairs!
In any case, once the last couple gets to the altar everyone will turn their backs to look at you anyway! So if they switch nobody will be seeing it.
Post # 6
i would definitely have them walk as couples, the photos would be so much more meaningful and it would be a nice thing to do for your friends who are standing up for you and you could have them stand in their appropriate positions once they get up to the alter so you can have you moh closest to you.
Post # 7
Thanks for all your suggestions! I like the "couples proceed together and stand in the correct spot once they arrive" idea – and I just had a great idea to make it less complicated on them.
I was worried that they’d be confused as to where to stand once they got to the front, so I thought I could tape their positions on the floor like on a stage set.
Which was a complete crazy idea, since our wedding is outside and in the grass. Tape on the grass? Not happenin’
So my solution? The wedding is creekside – and the bank is lined with rocks. If I get small rocks and put them in the places, nobody will notice them but the bridal party and it will eliminate confusion. I could even put their first initials on them.