Post # 1
Okay, so I was visiting my Maid/Matron of Honor this weekend for my bridal shower, and I also asked to see her dress, because I hadn’t seen it in real life (only fabric samples and the one they have in the store). It hadn’t been altered yet, so it’s too big for her, and obviously doesn’t look great yet, but I think it will as soon as it fits her really well. But basically, she seems to hate it, and her boyfriend came out and said he thinks it’s crap. Now, I’m totally freaking out that I have horribly tacky bridesmaids dresses, and generally feeling bad. It’s way too late to do anything about it now, so I guess I’m looking for a little reassurance. Here’s a link to the dress: http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=707b85e7-8eb7-41ad-8b12-4e54980b26a2&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=3&colorId1=. Her dress is espresso and the trim is blue jay…you can use the color function to see what it looks like. I think we’re going to remove the white flower, but I’m waiting to have all the girls in one room to make that final decision. Sidenote: the other bridesmaids dresses are the reverse colors (blue with brown trim). Another sidenote: I took some of the bridesmaids with me when I picked these out, and I gave them all full veto before we settled on them 6 months ago, so hearing this now is a little hurtful. *sigh*
Post # 3
Awwww, I’ve always loved that dress! It didn’t really fit with the look I was going for, but that was one of my top choices if it had. I think she’s being insensitive, her boyfriend is clueless and you shouldn’t worry about it. She agreed to buy it and she’s trying to do it for you, so just be happy–she’ll be happy day of and want to celebrate with you, I’m sure!
Post # 4
i think those are going to be very cute! I wouldn’t worry. She’ll like it better when its been altered and fits correctly. That can make such a huge difference in how it looks and how she’ll feel in it.
Post # 5
I think they are really pretty! I love brown and blue together. I am sure it will look better once it is fitted to her.
The fact that you gave them a “veto” and they were happy means they should not make such comments to you. Sometimes I think bridesmaids forget that they are really there to make your life a little easier and not overcomplicate it.
Post # 6
It’s very pretty and the colors will look great together.
Post # 7
Wow…you’re a very nice bride to give them full veto rights before you ordered the dreesses. It was definitely her own fault for not saying something at that time. I think it’s very hurtful for someone to tell you that they hate something about your wedding before it’s even happened, and equally as hurtful to say they hate something after it’s happened. A newsflash to your Maid/Matron of Honor is that this is your wedding, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. You love them!
Now that I said all of that, I think the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are adorable! They look really comfortable. I’d love to know what her problem with them is. I think you did a fabulous job on the dresses, and you shouldn’t worry so much about what anyone else thinks!
Post # 8
Oh, bees, you are the best! Thank you so much for being so reassuring…..I know I shouldn’t worry so much about what others think, but I really want everyone to love their experience at my wedding–not be talking about all the things they didn’t like. It’s just an insecurity thing, and I need to work on it. That being said, I DO love these dresses, and I picked them because I could get them in to colors and they compliment my dress, and I’m having an outdoor summer wedding, and the fabric is light and breezy and should be comfortable. So. I’m not sorry, and if they didn’t like them, they should have said something in August when I asked! Right? Right. 😀 Seriously, bees, THANK YOU!
Post # 9
I think it’s an adorable dress. The colors sound go together also. She should get over it and act supportive. Her Boyfriend or Best Friend shouldn’t have said anything like that, it’s hurtful. Once she gets it fitted I’m sure it will be better on her, and if not it’s your wedding not hers so she can suck it up and be a Maid/Matron of Honor for a day.
Post # 10
Another vote for a perfectly adorable dress, i would love to wear it!
Post # 11
Those are stunning dresses. In the world of Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, there is little to complain about, especially if your BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor had a say in the dresses. Hopefully once it fits right she’ll feel better about it. Fit can make a huge difference.
It’s kind of rude to make those comments this late in the game. Even if you don’t have a say in the dress, once you’ve agreed to be the Maid/Matron of Honor or a Bridesmaid or Best Man, you suck it up and wear the dress the bride chooses.
Don’t worry, even if she doesn’t like it, I think it’s a stunning dress. Your girls will look beautiful.
Post # 12
I think those dresses are very cute, I would love to wear one like that. I think its rude of her bf to say something like that to you and if she truly doesnt like them then it is her fault for not saying that she wasnt a fan when you guys picked them out. I think you made a great choice and I wouldnt worry.
Post # 13
It’s a pretty dress!! I’m not a huge fan of the flower though. Anyway, I don’t think it’s right for your friend and her bf to say something so mean NOW it’s not like you told them “This is the dress you’re wearing, like it or not.” Ugh people can be so rude!
Post # 14
I’ve seen some hideous Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses but I don’t think this one is bad at all. I don’t love the white flower though, sorry!
Post # 15
I think they look great. I love the Flower to By The Way
Post # 16
i love that dress. I’m considering it as one of my bridesmaid dresses just in different colours that match my theme. but I think they have nothing to complain about! even if they dont like it it is soo rude to say that!