(Closed) My MOH is an attention whore((((RANT))))

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JenniferWay13:  There are two issues here, the Maid/Matron of Honor issue and the friend issue.

You say you told her to just be a guest and wear what she wants because she demanded that she have a reception dress. I think that was the right decision. The *only* thing a MOH/BM really has to do is wear the dress you choose. So stick with that.

The bigger thing, though, is that this friend is making a train wreck of her life, and using you. I would advise her to leave her cheating abusive bf, but if she doesn’t, all you can do is be there for her. But I would stop being a money source for her. Meaning, I would not lend her money, nor would I watch her kid for free. It sounds like (to be blunt) she is mooching off you, using you as a free babysitting service. I think at the very least you need to wind it back, e.g. limit it to once or twice a month. In fact if you stopped giving free babysitting, maybe she’d realise having another kid with this loser isn’t such a great idea.

Post # 4
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Sounds to me like she is upset that your life seems to be falling into place while hers is out of control. 

Post # 5
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

@paula1248:  +1 especially about watching the kid and her needing to realise she doesnt need to have another one cos if you dont stop youll end up watching the other one too. 


Post # 6
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@beachbride1216:  I agree.

I think you need to set some boundaries with your friend. What are you getting out of this relationship? Maybe it’s nothing right now (since she seems to be having some serious problems) but was this friendship mutually beneficial before? 

Post # 7
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

that is crazy!! I’m surprised you put up with it for so long! I’m sorry you had to go through that and I’m glad that you have a Bridesmaid or Best Man that is so supportive to try to balance out the crazy one lol. Sounds to me like she’s jealous her life is difficult and she wants to make sure yours is too. toxic.

Post # 8
1066 posts
Bumble bee

Seriously..I couldn’t be bothered with this. You need a friend to help and support you for your wedding day, not all this drama.

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