(Closed) My MOH is trippin so hard :(

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

honestly? if the situation were different and it was your sister’s boyfriend, would you feel the same? 

if so, then tell her that the GF is not a member of the bridal party and that she isn’t welcomed due to that.  If your sister threatens to back out because of your stance, let her.  She obviously isn’t respecting you or your wishes.

you could even point out that if she’d had a boyfriend, the boyfriend wouldn’t be involved and so the same rules apply to girlfriends as well.  gender doesn’t matter in this case. 

and this coming from someone who has a friend who’s like a sister who also has a wife.  lol, of course, i also end up asking my friend’s SO for advice and help, too, but that’s because my friend always says her SO knows the answer and she doesn’t! LOL! 

sounds like you’ve got a different situation, though. 

If you want to keep the peace, is there a way to involve the GF withOUT having her in the bridal party?  like make her part of the planning and help and have her do other things while the rest of you are getting ready on the wedding day???  like be an extra usher or give out programs or something???

Post # 4
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439 posts
Helper bee

I don’t know.  I’d just let her come along.  She’ll be an extra set of hands when it comes to DIY stuff.

Sometimes family peace requires doing things you don’t necessarily want.  You have to decide what’s worth more to you:  family peace or standing your ground?  You could damage your relationship with your sister beyond repair.  I know from experience.  I would rather have my sister in my life, and deal with a SO that I don’t care for, than not have my sister in my life at all.  This girlfriend may not be in your sister’s life forever, but you will be.  This is probably a small concession in the grand scheme of things.

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