Post # 1
So now that I’m engaged, I have decided to ask one of my old high school friends to be my moh, she has already been married (I happened to be one of her BM’s when she got married) and she knows the whole wedding lingo. At first she was very helpful, suggesting things, giving her opinion and answering whatever questions I had.
NOW she’s telling me how I need to do it. Shes telling me what colors i need to use and what dress she needs to wear bc she is the MOH. She told me that she is doing me and my FI engagement picutues. etc.
It upsets me bc shes already had her day and now shes trying to tell me how my day is going to be done.
Post # 3
Put your foot down. Tell her you will make final call and she is welcome to SUGGEST what she likes, but she is not in the position to make any final calls.
Post # 4
She can’t make you do things her way – tell her, politely but without explanations or reasoning that she can argue with, that her ideas are great and her wedding was lovely, but you and your FI have your own style and ideas you’ll be using for your wedding, and that you’re really excited about it and hope she’ll love how it all comes together. Maybe just to make her feel included, if you’re torn between two choices on something ask for her opinion (if she doesn’t choose either and gives you a totally different suggestion instead, then stop asking her.