- 4 years ago
I got engaged in March and asked my younger sister who I have always been very close to to be my MOH and she said yes. She wasn’t very enthusiastic about the enegagement or the idea of being in the wedding but she said that she would do it and since she is my best friend I want her to be by my side on my wedding day.
It is now August and I have had to hunt her down and go out of my way to get in contact with her, let alone get together with her. She has made zero effort to contact me and little to no effort to even return my calls nor has she participated in any wedding planning events thus far. She always tells me that she has to work but I found out that when I went dress shopping she wasn’t working, she was hanging out with freinds from work. I’m not a super demanding person or bride. I don’t expect her to drop everything and everyone else in her life and be at my beck and call but I would like her to show a little more interest in wedding plans and maybe even spend an afternoon every other month or so helping plan things, dress shopping or just talking.
She is pretty sensitive so I’m affraid to confront her in the wrong way and have all heck break loose but I’m starting to stress out because I would rather she tell me now that she doesn’t want to do it instead of waiting until we’re only a few weeks out and me having to get someone else to be my MOH.
She told my mom that she thinks I asked her to be the MOH out of pity (WTH?!) and that I don’t really want her. My mom thinks she is just scared of messing up or disappointing me but so far all she has done IS disappoint me by doing nothing at all to participate. I’m not asking her to throw my shower or bachelorette party or anything like that, I just wish she showed some interest and participated. I don’t know what to do.