Post # 1
I feel horrible writing this but I need an outlet right now. Just found out that my younger married sister is pregnant and just bought a new house. And it does not help that my younger brother and sister in law are also pregnant and also bought a new house as well.
A little background: I am the oldest and 35 years old, never married and I waited a long time to find the love of my life. I realize that I get only one day but why do I feel that when it is my turn to have a major event in my life, the light is a little bit dimmed and it is not about me. You have no idea how horrible I feel right now having these feelings.
I realize also that it is not a competition but I feel that when I finally have things going my way it seems that someone is also one step in front of me. I guess it is my competive nature coming through.
It’s ok. I just need to accept it and the most important part is that my future husband is so amazing and I can’t believe how lucky I am to have him in my life. I have to be grateful for what I have.
Post # 3
“It’s ok. I just need to accept it and the most important part is that my future husband is so amazing and I can’t believe how lucky I am to have him in my life. I have to be grateful for what I have.”
Yup. There is plenty of love and happiness to go around. Better than pain and misery.
Post # 4
I get what you’re saying, but I think you’re underestimating how you’ll feel on your wedding day. There will be so much love for you and Fiance on that day that there is no way you’ll feel overshadowed 🙂
Post # 5
Our siblings don’t have major things going on right now, but Fiance and I are both 30 and we feel like not many people give a crap because we’re older than everyone else we know who is already married. It kind of feels like our time has passed, which sucks because we can’t help that we met the loves of our lives at this age. It was depressing at first, but I just had to learn to accept it =o/
Post # 6
There is nothing wrong with being honest about your feelings. We ALL have these moments. Just don’t let these moments outweigh the grateful ones.
Post # 7
Just think of it this way…their babies will be old news. But when your time comes around, you will have your moment!
I totally understand where you’re coming from and it’s OK to feel that way.
Post # 8
i agree with @arielle, focus on the positive in your life.
Post # 9
I understand where you’re coming from. When I told my younger sister my Fiance and I were getting married in 2012 and she replied with, “Oh, looks like I’ll have to plan my wedding in 2011 then,” it hurts a little. Especially when she’s not dating anyone or anything, she just wants to one-up.
There’s a tinge of guilt that always runs through my veins when I think, “Hey! This isn’t about you!” whenever she does something like that, but I just have to keep reminding myself that there will be an entire day devoted to my Fiance and I’s love, and that’s really all I need.
You’re getting married and starting a whole new chapter in your life! Just remind yourself that you’ve chosen to wait to get married because you wanted to find the perfect person for you, and you have!