(Closed) My MOH…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

🙁 Technically their only ‘duty’ is to show up, but I think it’s usually an unspoken rule that they should also like you. I’m sorry she’s changing so much, that’s a really suck situation.

Post # 4
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

You’ve mentioned that she’s making new friends at college – did she just go away to college? There’s a huge change that happens when someone first goes to school, and she’s probably just trying to take it all in. I hate to say it, but I changed a lot when I went away too. There were a lot of friends that I fell out with, and the friends that let me go, I’m now closer than ever.

Take her to lunch, sit down and talk with her. It sounds like there’s deeper issues than just her not helping with the wedding, and it’s something you need two need to work out.

Post # 5
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140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You MOH should be there to help you as much as they can.  I agree with you that being an MOH is more than just showing up in a dress. If that’s all it was, why not just have all BM’s? But I don’t see anything wrong with having your sister as a second MOH. Like @afbacher said, if she has just gone to college, she is going through a big change and is maybe getting overwhelmed with it all. I also agree that you should go to lunch or meet up with her and talk about it.  Just make sure to do it in a public setting that way she isn’t feeling like you are bringing her in to attack her.  Just let her know your feelings and go from there.  Good luck!  And don’t worry, it will work it self out the way it is supposed to!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

wow I am having the EXACT same problem with one of my bridesmaids! my wedding is a lot further out than yours but still… I don’t understand why she has so much time for her other friends but wont even text me back… crazy. good luck with yours =)

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

What I have found is that they have more time for their other friends due to physical proximity.  The friend that I have lives about 1 1/2 – 2 hours away, so we don’t get to hang out much, and when we do, it tends to be me going there. She has come down to see me too, but I feel like I end up there more often. Maybe they figure that since they other people are there with them, they are a higher priority and figure they will get back later when they aren’t with their other friends.  That is about my best guess! LOL Good luck to you too! 😀

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Sisters always seem to care more.  I don’t see the big deal in your friend not doing much – it isn’t a reflection of her as a friend in ,my opinion, she may just simply not be that interested in helping out.  If there is something specific you want her to do, like dress shopping, ask her.  If she doesn’t want to attend, do it yourself. 

 

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