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My mom has a FB, but she never really uses it. If I were you, I'd just make all of my photos private to only people you are okay with seeing them! Then, you don't have to worry about her posting tons of photos!
I hear you on this one... My friends and I love FB... and taking pictures. Not always a good mix. After a *few* beverages, I'm not looking as good as I could ;) I usually ask them to take down ones that are truly awful... or I just detag the ones that are bad, but not cringe worthy.
My mom and I have discussed facebook boundaries. She wouldn't do that to me honestly because she knows I'd defriend her! We're "friends" but she makes an effort to not snoop on my page or to post too much on my wall.
I'd honestly be very upset if my parents posted unflattering pictures of me (or my fiance). If they refuse then I'd unfriend them immediately. To me it's an honest consequence to not listening to my requests. I'd do the same thing to a friend/acquaintance, so why should they get special treatment?
My GRANDMA and my great aunt have FB and grandma loves to post pics like that. Fortunately, she doesn't have very many pictures of me, lol. Other than untagging yourself and asking her to take it down there isn't much you can do. If it's really bad you could always unfriend her, but she's your mom.
My mom has only posted one awful picture, and removed it when I asked, but she uses facebook as her political sounding board and spends all day getting in arguments. She also comments on my, FI, FMIL and FSIL's walls every day. And then she gets offended when she doesn't get a response every time. She just doesn't understand that most people don't take facebook as seriously as she does.
I know this isn't related to your question, but it can be a very bad idea to friend your colleagues and professional business contacts on facebook. I would reconsider that.
I don't have a problem with my mom posting pictures, it's everything else she does!
She comments on absolutely EVERYTHING I do, every pic I post, everything. It's annoying and sometimes she asks me to delete things.
PLEASE everyone needs to YOUTUBE "your moms on facebook" that's my life... hahahaha
awww eva too cute, my FMIL has been putting on an easter egg hunt for my fi and i for the past few years. we are 26, 28!! lols.
luckily for me she doesn't have facebook so none of her pics end up on the 'web.
whenever i do get tagged in an embarassing photo i untag myself :P
Sometimes I untag myself, but the best thing I ever did was to create a group of all the people I work with, and set my privacy settings so that said group is not allowed to see my Tagged Pictures.
I have a friend who doesn't understand this. I swear she gets a kick out of putting embarrassing photo's of us on her FB page. I have basically told her she sucks for doing it, and I've untagged myself. Luckily, everyone on my FB page knows I'm a big goofball, so they expect crazy pics of me! Still, some of them are less than flattering. My Mother is so not into FB, but she makes me spy on my brothers page for her. She doesn't understand why anyone would put their business out there, even if its harmless.
I HATE the fact that my mom is on facebook. I cant say anything, do anything, post any pictures or even be online in general before shes dinging me on chat, posting on my wall, on my status, on my relationship. and it gets worse, she told HER entire FB page that im getting married before I even told anyone. I had been engaged for 2 seconds before everyone including jim in tuktyuktuk knew. I dont even post anything that REQUIRES a comment and shes commenting, i could say "taking a walk" and shes commenting on it. Its pretty embarrasing when your moms name is plastered all over your page.....
I have craaaaazy privacy settings in place on FB. Like, seriously crazy. They took like four hours to set up, because I classified everyone I was friends with into little groups according to what I wanted them to see/not see.
Very occasionally I'll untag, but usually I just comment about how bad I look, haha.
like daydreamwander I have my privacy settings set so people who are business contacts can't see certain things (i.e. photos and comments- there's no reason for them to see those anyway). I miss when facebook was just for college students.
If you have serious biz contacts through FB maybe you could ask your mom to tweak her privacy settings [to friends/family only] rather than the WHOLE INTERNETZ.
I'm pretty adamant with any of my friends/fam that ANY pictures that go up of me/my son MUST MUST MUST be entirely private, you know fear of phedophiles and all.
I think that if you explain it calmly/rationally that she might reconsider. Maybe she doesn't think it's a big deal .. for example, my aunt works for the army, and someone [one of her sisters] posted a picture of her & my mom NAKED [but holding a fish in front of their breasts & other gratuitous nuedity was cropped out] on FB. I COMPLETELY understood her upset over that picture being on the internet, since it was a little risque, and she as well has work contacts through FB [who actually saw the pic and commented about it at work].
At least you're not naked in your picture, so you have that to be grateful for.
barring that, you could always complain directly to the FB team, because I *think* their terms of service implies that if someone asks you to take a pic down you're supposed to do it [if they're in the pic/took the pic].
good luck!
Here's the thing about facebook: I kind of feel like it's not the place for business/work related contacts. It's the internet, and you can't always control what goes up on the internet. So if you are that concerned about your serious business contacts, I would either restrict your privacy settings so that they can't see things such as your pictures or your wall, or un-friend them and move your work networking to a business related site.
And just ask your mom nicely to take it down- she's your mom, I'm sure she probably thinks it's a cute pic but I'm sure if you tell her you feel it's unflattering she'll take it down for you. :)
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My mom thinks it's cute to put a lot of pictures on Facebook. So my FI and I were at my parents house for Easter and of course she took pictures and they are now on FB. She thinks its cute to buy Easter baskets for my FI and I and of course she wanted a picture with us holding them.
And she put the picture on FB! To make matters worse, it was an awful picture of me! I have professional business contacts on FB! When I asked her to take it down, she did, but this is an ongoing issue...
Does anyone else have this problem, or is it just me?!?
Edit: to clarify, I wouldn't want ANYONE (friends, family, etc.) to see me in this picture. It is truly an awful picture of me.