(Closed) My Mom Has Ruined My Engagement Buzz!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Mine too. Our engagement will be 3 years long. we haven’t talked about a “real” date, and everyone is treating it like we aren’t engaged. Don’t worry about it. All that’s important is how you and your FI feel about each other. Everyone else will see it eventually. 

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    This is happening to me too. I just got engaged on May 20 and don’t have a date set yet. We are trying to figure out ceremony type, finances, place to live, etc. but the questions are annoying and constant. Seriously I don’t know why people can’t say congratulations and then just keep their traps shut.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I agree with MsTireSmoke. My FI and I are haveng a very short engageent, and have been a couple for a litle over 2 yrs 3 months when we will marry. Some feel we are rushing and that “it’s sooo soon!”, but we know that it is right for us, and that it is the best thing to do for OUR situation.

    When people pry, tell them whats going on (if you are comfortable). I had NO problem telling relatives we were going to be married sooner rather than later so I can focus on school during the school year.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Whoops! double post! 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m kind of in the same boat, my boyfriend got down on one knee and proposed but with out a ring.  Our wedding will be in 3 years once were done with school and have a chnace to get settled into the “real” world.  So I don’t have a ring or a date set.  It sucks because the only person who takes us seriously is my best friend.  It makes me sad but I keep reminding myself that I am most definatly engaged to the love of my life and people will come around eventually.  This site however is amazing and the women on here have been such a huge help, especially if I just need to talk about my wedding to someone 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think that is sad.  Don;t let anyone take away from your engagement.  Congrats.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    don’t listen to anyone, ladies! if he asked you to marry him – and you said YES – you are ENGAGED! no ring or date? who cares? the man you love wants to marry you. that’s all that matters. don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise and ignore the buzzkills. congratulations of everyone’s engagements!

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @LilDrAnya:  I completely agree with this.

    If he proposed to you and gave you a ring, well then you are most definitely engaged! You two have made an active decision to get married sometime in the future, and there is no such thing as a rule stating that you need to have a date set straight away.

    I’m sorry your mother is killing the excitement, but she is wrong so please don’t let it ruin your engagement buzz. Congratulations on this exciting step! 

    Ps. We got engaged on the exact same day – 13 Feb 2012, day before Valetine’s! 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @LilDrAnya:  yes, this! exactly!

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Wow, I can’t believe so many Bees have had this type of experience! FI proposed with a fake ring, so I didn’t have a real one for abut 2 months, and we didn’t set a date for several months either. We were even considering waiting until summer 2013 to get married. No one questioned it, all we got were congrats and well wishes.

    If anyone is telling you anything less, they aren’t true friends at all. If there was an official agreement to get married, you’re engaged. I’m sorry your mom feels differently, but at the very least your friends should be happy for you and if they aren’t, I wouldn’t consider them very good friends.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee

    You could always sercretly elope, just the two of you, and then have a wedding celebration two years from now. That’d sure make your mom realize it’s ‘real’ 😉 That’s probably terrible advice…..lol.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. Don’t let others cast a shadow on such a happy time in your life. If anything, think of it as one more thing to bring you and your FI closer. Congratulations on your engagement! 

    Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Everyone’s pretty much already said what I was going to say. I just wanted to say I’m sorry no one is taking one of the biggest events in your life seriously and I know how it feels: FI and I are planning to be married FOUR YEARS from now and many people do not consider us engaged.

    All the negativity is just a speed bump on the way to something great. Congratulations: you ARE engaged!

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