- Take The Reins
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I am an only child, and my mom and I are really close, usually. My Fiance and I have gone throgh hell to get where we are. Lot’s of emotional and personal growth and massive changes in our lifestyle has gone on. My mom had the passenger seat, which, as great as it was to have the advice, put her into a tough position with my Fiance and our future. She wasn’t convinced he was “it” for me.
When we got engaged, I was actually afraid to tell my parents (insert: I have approval issues with my folks from when I was young, so it was VERY important they approve). I got luke warm congrats with great hesitation in their voices, and zero questions regarding the actual wedding part. They were not thrilled; I did not get squealing, “oh honey’s” or OMG’s. At all. Mom didn’t ask about my ring. We went to visit the following weekend post engagement, it took her 4 hours to even ask to see the ring, my dad 2 days. They told me it was silly to put an engagemnt announcement in the paper (which still hasn’t been done). I was pretty hurt, but as usual I sucked it up. Gradually, as I talked more about the wedding, I got less and less approval from her. Our date was bad, the city we chose was ridiculous, I was being excessive in my choices (so not true), who was I trying to out do with this fancy wedding (it’s so not fancy) blah blah blah. I finally lost it on mom and basically told her she could take the journey with me and enjoy it, or I could do it on my own and she could expect her invite in the mail I told her I’d appreciate an RSVP and wether she and dad would walk me down the aisle as I would make other arrangements if not. I didn’t speak to her for a couple days after that conversation, and I think she got it figured out I wasn’t kidding. Since then, there have been a few heated moments about stuff, and I’ve had to put my foot down. Overall, the change of heart has been amazing, and I couldn’t have foretold how much fun it would be to have her involved with her heart, as opposed to just her physical being. Since our “discussion”, she has decided to pay for my dress, and she and my dad are paying for a bunch of extras also. I am so happy she came around, because I can’t imagine not having her there with me!