- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Ugh. I feel awful even posting this, but I need to vent.
Backstory: My mom and I have a pretty good relationship, but I wouldn’t say I feel very *close* to her. She left my Dad when I was 8, and he raised me. I still had a lot of contact with her, but have a bit of a void feeling with our relationship. She’s just kind of a close friend or something I guess.
We used to talk on the phone occasionally (like 2-3 times a week). Then I got pregnant last February. By the end of my pregnancy she was calling me at least once a day.
Then I had my daughter, her first grandchild. For the past 8 months she’s wanted to visit every weekend. When she can’t because we are doing something else, I can hear the disappointment in her voice.
She calls me every evening, and at this point I am just tired of it. I HATE talking on the phone to anyone…so talking every night is just getting to be too much. I’m usually trying to get my daughter to bed and then I like to spend a little time with my Darling Husband since he works all day…and I like to have a chance for some “me” time, since I get little to none.
So I’ve been trying to passively give her the hint that I don’t want to talk on the phone every night. Telling her that I will call her instead of her calling me, as I am trying to get Dirty Delete to sleep when she usually calls. When I call her and only talk for a few minutes, or don’t call at all (I text her as to why I havent called because the last time she tried calling me and I didn’t pick up she FREAKED out thinking something was wrong, calling DH’s phone until we picked up) she texts me all night long and first thing in the morning.
I feel smothered.
I know she does this because she loves me and her grandbaby, but oh my gosh. I need a break. I just HATE hurting people’s feelings, let alone my Mom. I have such a hard time telling people to back off.