- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
When I first moved out my parents and I did not get along at all and when we got engaged things were pretty rough for a long time. They were pretty upset about how I went about moving out and how when we got engaged Fiance didn’t really ask my daddy’s permission. He thought it would be rubbing it in my dad’s face to ask him when my dad would know that obviously we would be getting married with their blessing or not. My parents are overtly religious and it’s taken a long long time for us to get to where we are now.
When I did live with my parents we were very distant. And it wasn’t until we went through all of that crazy stuff that we got back on track, my parents (and I) realized how much stuff needed to change. The other day I was over at my parents house and she said that now that she’s been on spring break she has been thinking about the wedding. Although Fiance and I agreed that we wouldn’t accept any financial help for the wedding from my parents, my mom talked to me the other day about wanting to help.
At the beginning of planning I was freaking out that she was going to go all OCD on me (I know it’s a disorder and I didn’t use that word right) and try to over-control everything so whenever she would try to be overbearing I would politely say something about it and she’d back off. When she was talking to me the other day the things she is offering me to pick between are all things that she wants to supply. (Bridal shower, centerpiece/floral arrangements, honeymoon, etc) I talked to Fiance and he thinks I should really have her help me with the centerpieces since that’s the thing I’ve been struggling with the most. But seriously, I’m so excited. I didn’t think my mom would come around and though she isn’t doing back flips like I do about everything, I’m so excited that it seems like she’s coming around. I know that I signed a contract when I was younger that said she wouldn’t give me money for the wedding if I moved in with Fiance before the wedding (if you want more details ask) but her offering this to me makes me feel like she has a heart for all of this, and it makes me so happy!