(Closed) My mom is getting married…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Do you talk to your mum often? Strange that she wouldn’t mention it before.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Awh, honey!  I’m sorry you are feeling this way, but I honestly believe that you will continue to feel badly unless you talk to your mom.  I wouldn’t be all negative when you talk to her and say something like, “Why did you take [insert sister’s name] dress shopping, but not me!”  Instead, I would say something like, “Mom, I am so happy for you and am beyond thrilled with the man you are marrying.  Do you think I can help you with every step of the wedding planning?  It would mean so much to me if I can be involved.”  Obviously you wouldn’t say that word-for-word–you would put your own personality into it–but I would convey the message to her that you want involved.  I don’t think she’s purposefully excluding you.  I think she just doesn’t know that you do want in on the wedding planning.  Plus, she may feel that if she bombards you with her wedding plans that it may stress you out with your own wedding planning.  I think this is a great time for the 2 of you to bond–as you plan both of your weddings.  Best of luck with you mom and your weddings! 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Is it possible your mother knew that you wouldn’t be able to attend that day/time she went, and that’s why she didn’t tell you?  She may have just thought “well, I know MissBoPeep is busy, so there’s no reason to invite her, since she can’t come anyway.”  Just a thought.  I’d maybe ask her and just be like “Hey, I saw you went dress shopping with x, y, and z.  Any chance I can be included on your wedding related outings next time?”

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