- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
My mom is going crazy and I need some moral support. Its 50 days till the wedding and major things like one of the venues (its a three day thing), and the DJ are not booked.
Since the very beginning she has lashed out on the phone to me about how she was dissapointed in the way i was getting married (religious issues), and then veers back towards normalcy and expects me to act like she never was mean.
Nowadays, its a combination of ignoring my begging her to send deposit checks for vendors, “too busy to talk” on the phone, and being super mean on the phone, or sending rude texts. When I get upset at her rudeness and misbehavior, she yells at me to get over it- “we need to move on.” I don’t know how to do this.
The irony is that i KNEW this would happen, and originally wanted a small, simple wedding, with very little outlay from her. But nooo, “we don’t do daytime weddings in our family”, and i SHOULD have held my ground, but now she is yelling at me about everything being over budget, which is ENTIRELY her fault.
The sad thing is that we have a great relationship when I don’t have to depend on her for stuff. But at this point, all the stress she has given me is making me feel like i hate her, and I hope that will go away on the wedding day. She’s my only parent nowadays, so this is distressing me quite a bit.
Actually, I don’t even want to have a wedding anymore, to be honest, I just wish i could elope.
Anyone have a similar experience? How did you learn to let go of the anger and actually enjoy the wedding process?