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This is my mom’s second time around with breast cancer. She went through chemo and a lumpectomy in 2005 and was diagnosed again earlier this year. She just finished up chemo about 3 weeks ago and will be having her double mastectomy tomorrow. Of course, I’m a bundle of nerves. Has anyone gone through this either themselves or with a close friend or family member?
In addition, yesterday my mom got the results from genetic counseling and while she is negative for the BRCA2 gene, unfortunately, she is positive for the BRCA1 (Breast Cancer) gene. This means my sister and I have a 50% chance of having the gene too which would significantly increase my risk for breast and ovarian cancer. It really scares me. I’m only 27 but I think if I am positive for the gene I would consider (after I have children) getting a hysterectomy and mastecomy.
Anyway, I could use a little support and insight. Thank you so much!
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I have not but I wish your mother good luck! Sending prayers your way!
Post # 4
My egg donor is BRCA 1 & 2 positive. I found out last fall. I am 31 and undecided when I will take the test or what I will do… but I know they recommend to do it before I am 35 if I am positive (preventative surgery.) At the very least, I would start with a mammogram. I had to get my first at 30 (when I learned of this thing) and it gives doctors a clean image of when your breasts are in good health, so that way they can spot something sooner rather than later.
@ClassicStarlight: I wish your mom the best.
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@ClassicStarlight: I have not been through this with everyone, but I want to send prayers and good thoughts your way!
Post # 6
My FMIL is going through chemo right now, and she’s not sure what kind of surgery she’ll need or if she has teh gene (or if she’ll test). I understand your nerves! We’re all here for you– it sounds like your mom is a trooper— she’s going to beat this!
Post # 7
23andme is only $100 right now, and they screen for BRCA mutations if you decide you’d like to know.
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@ClassicStarlight: Oh man, that is rough. Two times going through all that? Wow, what a strong woman your mom must be. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer about a year ago (wow, it’s been that long?!) and had a single mastectomy in January. She did really well, and took it easy for a few weeks afterwards, and is mostly fine now, other than having to wear a fake boob. When she went in for the surgery, she had told me beforehand that she didn’t want visitors (even me!) afterwards, so I didn’t plan on going, but my dad called and said he needed to leave, so maybe I could come down. Anyway, seeing her in the hospital bed, without a wig, and hooked up to machines, she looked so small and vulnerable, but was totally lively and herself. It was incredible. It took a little while,
Afterwards she went through radiation, but now is cancer-free and almost back to normal (other than some side effects of the chemo that haven’t gone away and might never go away…).
I’m thankful my mom’s genetic test things came back negative, so I don’t know about that part, but there is always a chance no matter what I guess.
Anyway, I wish you and your mom the best of luck and I hope she has an easy time of the recovery! It is a little weird to know she is one-boobed now, but I’m so glad that is behind her. I can’t imagine going through the treatments twice, so I hope this helps your mom defeat it once and for all.
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@ClassicStarlight: Hugs and prayers! Angelina did it and she does doing great! Wishing you the best and that everything will go well! Women, we are more than our bodies, let’s show the world that! 🙂
Post # 10
@ClassicStarlight: I’m so very sorry for all that your mother and family have been through because of this. I cannot even imagine.
I obviously do not know what your mother’s or your own personal beliefs are, and I absolutely do not wish to upset you in any way.
I only am able to offer to others the living hope on which I have based my entire life — the One who has always been there for me through my own numerous surgeries, and whose love and power never fail, and that is God.
May His peace that passes understanding comfort you and your mother and your entire family as your mom undergoes this procedure tomorrow. May you experience His presence in a fresh, new way as you pass through this trial that is before you, and may His infinite grace and healing virtue be upon your mother to remove every trace of this disease from her body, never to return again, in Jesus’ mighty and powerful name, I pray.
(((HUGS))) to you all!
Post # 11
Thank you all so much! Your words are so helpful and appreciated. My older sister had Leukemia at 16 (totally random and not genetic) and so this is my third time dealing with cancer of an immediate family member. Needless to say, it sucks!
My mom has been a tough cookie so far and I look forward to her being healthy again! It’s going to be hard seeing her go through recovery and pain but I know it’s for the best and we are going to do the best we can to be supportive of her.
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@ClassicStarlight: I haven’t had any first hand experience with this… I just wanted to give you **hugs** and tons of support. I will be sending oodles of positive thoughts your way. *more hugs*
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@ClassicStarlight: Wishing you and your mom all of the best!
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@ClassicStarlight: My mom did this after her second tumor on her breast. The first time it was cancer the second time it wasn’t, but she went ahead with the double mastectomy. She decided it was better to prevent any future incidents. This was 25 years ago and she has stayed cancer free.She was 36 and now going on 61. Everything will turn out just fine. Just give her lots of love and time for herself to get back to normal. If she wants to be alone don’t let that bother you, its a huge change for her, but she will come around.
As for the gene, i finally got tested and it was negative. Just because she has it doesnt mean you do or that you will get cancer. You should start getting mamagrams once a year. My breast doctor,recommended i start mamograms at 25 so you may want to talk to your doctor. Education and early detection is the key.
Good luck, lots of hugs.
Post # 16
Thank you all so much! I just wanted to update you. The surgery went GREAT and my mom seems to be chatty and in good spirits. I know she has a long road ahead but she’s handled everything really well so far. I just got home tonight from the hospital and I’m exhausted but I’m heading back tomorrow morning to pick her up after she’s discharged so she can relax and recuperate at home. Thanks again for all the well wishes!