(Closed) My mom is insane – what to do?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think I like the second one best.  I like how the ruching is a bit looser and looks more like draping there.

Post # 4
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

it sounds like your mom just has different taste- i think the things she isn’t a fan of would be true of those other dresses.

and get what makey YOU feel beautiful.

Post # 6
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

To me, it sounds like your mom maybe feels a little left out? Like, you brought her in to see a dress that you had already found and decided you loved, and she wishes that she had helped you find “The dress”? Or maybe I’m totally off base, lol, and she just really doesn’t like the dress for whatever reason.

Bottom line, get the dress you love, and don’t let her lack of enthusiasm ruin it for you! The Maggie dress is lovely, and I hope you post pics of you in it!

Post # 8
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The aretha is my favorite, but definitely buy the dress that you love the most. You are the one who will be wearing it!

Post # 9
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think you should go with what you love. The day of, your mother will think you’re gorgeous regardless.

To tell you the truth, the same thing happened with me and my mom. I had found a dress I loved, it turned out that she hated it. We got into a HUGE fight, I started crying. 2 days later, I found the perfect dress and I bought it. I hope your story has a similarly happy ending.

Just wanted to say, I agree with MissAsB. The Cayenne is GORGEOUS. Love.

Post # 10
1104 posts
Bumble bee

It’s a shame you can’t take a photo – perhaps she is seeing something you can’t looking in a mirror? Or maybe she is just struggling with the idea of you getting married and this is a way for her to vent? Maybe she just has different taste. In any case, I’m a big believer in that mothers don’t have to approve of everything we do 🙂 It’s nice if they do, but not necessary for most things. This is one of those things! If you feel *that* beautiful in the dress then that’s what matters, as long as you can live with the thought that your mother doesn’t particularly care for it.

Post # 11
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Your mum’s from a different generation – perhaps she just doesn’t understand modern fashion. Maybe that’s why she prefers lace – lace has been a popular wedding choice on and off for decades.

Regardless, it’s your dress, and your decision. If she becomes an issue, you might be best to have a word with her. Explain how beautiful you feel in your dress. Explain how other people feel about it too (have you shown it to anyone else? Even point out weddingbee opinions!) And let her know that if she doesn’t like it she should just keep her mouth shut to avoid hurting your feeling unnecessarily.

Post # 13
41 posts
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Mom and I have different ideas of what a “wedding dress” looks like, we have different taste too. Everything I loved she didn’t, everything she loved I didn’t! In the end it’s what is going to make you happy, and go with the dress you love! I take my mother’s advice but after a while I realized no matter what I would go with a dress I wanted! 

Post # 14
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I adore the dress that you want!  Seriously, its beautiful!  And if you feel great in it, you deserve that dress.  I’d look around some more, just because you don’t want to be like one of us (I say us because I’ve done it too) bees that posts about regretting their choices.  But if you can’t find anything you fall for- you need that dress! 

Post # 16
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Go with the dress you feel good in. Bring in a friend to get another opion if you want.

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