Post # 1
So my mom calls me every Sunday night, its a ritual. She lives in another province so it’s pretty much the only time I talk to her unless there’s big news.
The only question she has about the wedding is when’s the date so she can let work know – she has a shitty convenience store job (no offense to everyone but her current employment situation is a HUGE sore spot with my sister and I about our mom but that’s a whole other vent).
She seems to have very little interest in our plans, she asks me questions but I feel like she’s just being polite. I just wish she seemed a little more excited. I’m her oldest daughter – the second to be engaged but the first to get married. As much as my mom drives me up the wall I really hoped she’d be more excited and want to be more involved 🙁
Post # 3
@MsGinkgo: Maybe because your wedding isn’t until next year and she feels there is still time? You can always talk to her about how you are feeling As it seems like you both are close.
Post # 4
It’s your wedding and she probably doesn’t want to seem pushy. Your wedding is the most important thing going on in your life right now, but it’s not your mom’s. I think you should have an honest chat with her about how you’re feeling.
Post # 5
Yeah you’re wedding is still pretty far out (as is mine). My mom will ask about it now and then but I wouldn’t say we talk about it often at all, maybe once a month she’ll mention something. If you want her more involved just talk to her about it.
Post # 6
My mom wasn’t on board with the wedding until a month before. My mom just isn’t the type to get excited about a wedding or anything really girly or sentimental. Maybe your mom is like that? Or maybe your mom is upset about her personal situation (she can’t afford to help you have a nice wedding? Or like others said, it’s too far away right now. No one else is going to be as excited about your wedding as you, as harsh as it may sound, it’s the truth.
Post # 7
the thing is this is so NOT like my mom. We’re not that close, she does drive me mental most of the time but she’s my mom and I love her.
She has a tendency to be overinvolved in every aspect of our lives. She has been more excited about pretty much every life event any of us have had except this one and I guess that’s why it’s bothering me..
Post # 8
Our engagement exactly 2 years long, and it wasn’t until around the 9-8 month countdown when families started to take an interest. The closer it gets the more excited everyone will be!
Post # 9
@OliveLucy: funny thing is – my dad, who is usually totally uninterested in things actually wants to know what going on with the planning!
Post # 10
@MsGinkgo: Is your mom into weddings? My mom isn’t a big wedding person ish that didn’t change just because I was getting married.
Post # 11
my mom seemed really uninterested too, but I finally just decided to talk to her about it. Mostly she figured with over a year to go it was too far away to think about, but she was also trying to be considerate (afraid of being overcontrolling) and so just said “whatever makes you happy” in response to almost any wedding comment. i was happy for her good intentions, but told her that I would love for her to be a bit more involved as the wedding gets closer. she has been more positive since then =)
maybe it’s the same for you and she has good intentions behind her apparent disinterest?