- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I am getting married in August, my mother has completely taken total control over my whole wedding I feel like she is in charge of it all! It’s the worst feeling EVER. Before this we were super close and now everything is a negative experience with her. She is helping me pay for a majority of it but I do not feel like she should be running the whole thing. It started with my dress, when we went to look at dresses she turned her nose down to every big white dress when all along that’s what I wanted. She actually turned her nose down to every dress anyone picked out unless it was something she had chosen!! I gave in and got the dress she liked even though it wasn’t my favorite and the one i loved so much she hated. I feel like i should love my dress and i dont. It’s very classic and elegant but it’s not the big beautiful gown I always wanted. Anytime I have an idea she puts it down 90% of the time and I’m getting so frustrated that I am not even excieted anymore. I wasn’t able to really even pick out my flower for my hair the one I had my mind set on one she automaticly said ” I don’t like that I am your mother” and made me feel like it was a bad choice resulting in a different headpiece and she picked out the veil then she applauded herself infront of everyone that she did such a great job!! I feel like I can’t even pick out my own Jewlery she has already made comments about how I need something simple I feel like dress is way to simple for me as it is! The weirdest thing to me is she hasn’t been controlling over the bridesmaids stuff just everything that has to do with my dress and anything that goes with it! We are having a destination wedding and she has put together all of these ideas I hate she wants to force people to sign up for activities and all of this stuff . I tried to tell her I didnt like the idea and she immediately jumped down my throat. I shouldn’t have to feel like she owns me and I’m afraid of her at this point. She has caused all kinds of problems . Does anyone have some advice for me on how to take back my control so I feel like this is MY DAY and NOT HERS!?