- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I just blew up on my mother and left her house where I was supposed to be spending the day to return to the privacy of FI’s empty apartment.
Last night my parents went to my dad’s company Christmas party with my godparents. They sat at the same table as a couple who brought their 21 year old son (same age as me). Apparently the son was going on about how he was looking for a girl and stuff like that.
This afternoon my mom tells me today all about this guy that they had seen and that her and my godmother were talking and thought he’d be a good guy to go out with and we should “hook up”…
At first I thought it was a sick joke as I have been with FI for over 4 years now and we’re getting married next year – but she wasn’t joking. She continued to advertise him by saying how well paid he was, what a great family he had, how she liked him, how he was “better”…
This was when I started getting short with her. I told her flat out that this was completely inappropriate to be saying to me, that I am happily engaged and she has no right to try and hook me up with some guy. I also told her that it was inappropraite to be talking about hooking her engaged daughter up to my godmother with some kid they just met!
My mom then came back at me listing off how we’ll never live in a huge house, how I’ll always have to work (something I have no problem with at all) and essentially talking him down! This was when my father came into the room and tried to intervene. He essentially had to tell my mother to shut her mouth and that she was being rude… which then started a fight between my parents.
As I was getting my stuff together to leave my mom left the house with a grand dramatic exit about how she was doing my a favour. At this point I was fighting back tears and wanted to screech every horrible thing possible at her – but I didn’t. My dad seen how upset I was and told me not to listen to her because he has no idea what her problem is.
My mom and FI have had a personality clash since they first met but have both always been civil. My mom has always cracked rude jokes when I come home about he must’ve thrown me out or when he is late getting me that he must be with his other girlfriend. They’ve always bothered me but they’ve always seemed as just petty jokes. It isn’t that FI is a bad person because my father just loves him – my father thinks that he is a really nice guy and sees how hard FI works to make me happy, he has never had a bad thing to say about him. My parents sometimes notice when we are fighting and my mom acts like it is the end of the world – that if a guy fights with me I should dump him – but despite this my father still holds a high opinion of him as everyone fights.
This really puts a dent into my good mood. I was so excited to be picking up my wedding ring this week and had hoped to show it to my mother – now I don’t want her to even know it came in (I showed her when I ordered and she felt it was a waste of money). I don’t even know how to deal with her at this point.