(Closed) My mom isn’t affectionate/opinionated with me… just waits in the background!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Hi TG –

 

Although I haven’t really done any planning yet since my date is so far away,I already know that my mother is going to act as similar as yours. The only thing I have really talked about with her is if she wants to contribute to the wedding (or not). I just informed her that FI’s family is contributing a certain amount and that if she wants to contribute she can. She is not the kind of excited mom to easily come up to me and tell me. My dad passed away in September, and he left us with a really fat loan. So my moms response was: “ok. So when you’re married are you still going to help me pay off this loan?”…it’s like really?!?that’s all you can say?

 

I still live at home. I think half of the problem is she doesn’t want me to move out (especially since my dad died, she doesn’t want to be alone). But I could easily live on my own. I have a decent job, FI owns his home. Do you think your mom could be feeling the same way? Doing all of this wedding stuff she is kind of afraid to let you go? I don’t know your situation. Maybe she is acting like she doesnt care to discourage you from getting married. Maybe you can talk to her and tell her everything you said here. That you would really appreciate her input because she is your mother and her opinion does matter.

 

Your wedding is about a year away so hopefully as it gets closer to the time she will get more excited.  Good luck with everything !

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