Post # 1
i have been DYING to know what my FMIL has picked for her dress. DYING. I asked her once and she gave me this vague answer “oh its champagne i think – strapless….”
wth? pictures? real description… ANYTHING….
Finally i couldnt take it anymore. so talking to mom today, i brought it up since my mom hasnt found her dress yet. I asked if she knew what FMIL was wearing.
She offered to call her and ask….
and im freaking out over her answer…
“Oh its a creamy ivory…. strapless…”
MY DRESS IS CREAMY IVORY STRAPLESS….
my mom is asking for a photo or fabric swatch under the roose that she needs to get her corsage to match….
im FREAKING OUT. i swear to all that is holy if her dress looks like a wedding dress i am gonna lose it.
SOMEONE please talk me down from the ledge…
****EDIT – i meant to put this in emotional – but as you can tell im emotional….feel free to move it…****
Post # 3
Eeep! I hope that it isn’t as similar to a wedding dress and it sounds.
Post # 4
Why can’t people realize to stay away from that colour and all relations? Man life would be so much easier…
Sorry to hear that!
Post # 5
Shes supposed to email a picture of either something similar in color or go take a picture of the sample dress (she apparently already ordered it…. got it from a bridal store – you would think the bridal lady would TELL HER NOT TO ORDER SOMETHING THAT LOOKS LIKE A BRIDAL GOWN).
im impatiently waiting for my mom’s call or email to find out if i should freak out further.
Post # 6
Um…. I would be FREAKING OUT too!
I think all you can do is talk to her and tell her that is not appropriate because it will be too similar to your dress. Or better yet, get your FI to talk to her and explain. Because SERIOUSLY… what is THAT?! Do you get along with your FMIL? It seems SO bizarre to me that someone who you get along with would do this.
All I can suggest is to make it known to her (in one way or another… hopefully on the civilized side of things as opposed to the crazy freakout side haha…) that this is NOT OK and she must find an alternative.
BREATHE! It will work out for you! Your mom seems like a good person to help with this as well… in case you need someone else to deal with it so you don’t go crazy on your FMIL.
Best of luck to you! (BREATHE!)
Post # 7
Breathe. Her attire can be changed or maybe you can give her a gift of a dress that you thought she would love and look good in on your wedding day? Maybe you can give her a ribbon or strap in a color to distinguish it from a wedding dress? Maybe you, your FMIL and your mom could go dress shopping and tell her that you wanted them to have similar styles and fabrics?
Hmmmm . . . perhaps a convo between your FI and your mom is necessary.
Post # 8
I would be upset too! If it is what it sounds like, freak out for 10 minutes and then hatch a plan to get FMIL to wear something else. Maybe your mom or FI can convince her that it’s too similar to yours/bridal.
Post # 9
im hoping its closer to champagne…. thats too close to white but at least its better than ivory…. *crossing fingers*
Post # 10
@dance: we have a weird relationship. she thinks im “sensitive” because i cry alot around her husband (FFIL) because hes often inappropriate. i’d rather cry than cuss him out so….
Post # 11
Oh gracious! Why are these sales ladies selling our FMILs white/cream/ivory/off white/ bridal color MOG dresses?!
I hope a) she’s color blind and b) it doesn’t look bridal in real life.
Post # 12
Good call on the corsage. Do you know what type of clothing she usually wears? (personally, I can’t imagine my FMIL in a strapless dress…) maybe that would give you some clue? what stores she frequents? give us an update!
Post # 13
@spaganya: Do you think she is clueless or just trying to be a pain in the butt? I think it is better for her to think you are sensitive than an angry, yelling crazy person…even if what your FFIL says is inappropriate and offensive. Here’s to hoping the dress is not in fact bridal looking! Since she got the dress from a bridal shop (assuming it is a MOB type gown), you would think it would not look wedding dress-like. Maybe it has some kind of jacket with it…most MOB dresses I have seen that are strapless or thin-strapped have one. Geez….people are so ridiculous (and clueless!) sometimes…
Post # 14
I have to say, when I started looking at MOB dresses, I was startled how many of them are in cream or ivory colors. Needless to say, I am waiting to get my MOG dress until my son and his fiancee come up with guidelines.
Post # 15
I don’t get why so many dresses for MOGs are white or ivory or cream. It just doesn’t make sense. My FMIL asked me what color I wanted her to wear and I said anything but ivory. I’m crossing m fingers for ya!
Post # 16
@fitzly: shes very small and fit for her age, so she can definately pull off a cute strapless number which is what has me worried. if she looked like a huge old hag, i wouldnt care if she wore stark white because nothing in that size would look that bridal (you know what i mean those suits with a dress underneath? very MOG/MOB-ey)…. but since shes so small and petite…. *sigh*
@dance: im hoping for a jacket as well. apparently she told my mom she almost got something purple (WHY DIDNT SHE GET THE PURPLE DRESS!?!?) but went with this instead. its not like shes trying to match her husband either, because then she really would have went with a gold or brown… *head hitting forehead*
im seriously hoping and praying that it looks ok. i probably wont be able to sleep until i know. it would have almost been better not knowing at all and just being surprised the day of!