(Closed) My mom might just push me over the edge….

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mrs.RDV: Boy do I ever hear ya! My parents are paying for the whole wedding and I’m pretty sure that was a mistake. Whenever my mom doesn’t like something I’ve picked or I disliked something she’s suggested she feels it necessary to “remind” me who’s writing the check. We disagreed so much about the candy buffet (which I simply had to have) that I finally decided to pay for that myself.

Just recently, I was told that she wished I hadn’t invited one of my friends because she doesn’t like her very much. I had to remind her that this was my day to have the friends I wanted there. Also, she would be so involved to even notice her come wedding day. Hang in there! I’ve got three months to go and I’m counting down.

Post # 5
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

As far as the invites go, it can be a great idea to include a map or directions, but if you and your FH think it isn’t necessary then it’s totally your decision. If, as you say, most of the guests are familiar with the area, then it isn’t a big deal. 

With the flowers, again, completely up to you. It’s your day, so do what you feel best with. 

With all the magic and excitement, mother’s sometimes get carried away without realizing that they’re adding to the stress. Let her know how you’re feeling x

Post # 6
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sigh, mothers. I sympathize entirely although I have the opposite problem: a mom who hates weddings and rolls her eyes at the thought of helping me with anything and will only give her opinion about something if it’s negative.

It sounds like your mom is worried that the fabric flowers will reflect poorly on her as your mom or on your family. But as long as your invites are worded so that it’s clear you two are hosting, not your parents, I don’t really see the problem. People have their opinions regardless of what you choose, and the flowers will not directly affect your guests as much as, say, the food.

People can get really opinionated about weddings. Especially about weddings that aren’t their own and are paid for with somebody else’s money! Although I guess if she’s paying for it or a lot of her friends are coming, that’s different for the above reasons.

Post # 8
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s very nice that your mom is going to pay for the flowers! It is totally a mom thing to make EVERY decision more difficult. She just wants you to be happy….with things that make her happy 😉

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