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So, my mother is quickly on her way to becoming the mom-zilla. She has fought me on EVERY SINGLE THING that we wanted for this wedding. We wanted to have a downtown venue, she fought tooth and nail about how inconvenient it is for people, parking, etc. She seriously yelled for days about it. We told her that we wanted to have a small wedding, 80 people MAX and she threw a fit about how that wasn't enough people and we needed to be more "realistic" about how many people we were inviting. We had a 2 week feud about how she wanted me to think more in the 120 range. Ummm... no. That's 40 extra people! NO. It took my older brother getting involved and telling her that she was being ridiculous for her to finally accept that I was not going to budge. She caved and eventually realized that it was a better idea NOT to invite all of those random people. Plus, FFIL announced that there was absolutely no extra people he wanted invited, just the family. She pretty much chilled after that. I haven't heard a word since and our guest list sits at a firm 65.

She nags me about things. She wants to plan, but won't get off her butt to do anything. Plus, whenever FI and I come up with something that we want (generally small, personal things like the DIY cake topper I made) she does nothing but critisize and tell me how stupid they are.

The latest battle was over invites. I was planning on DIYing mine with some kits from Cards and Pockets, but I have been slowly realizing that it is a huge pain and I have been looking at alternatives. I found this seller on etsy with these beautiful art deco invites and  match out venue and colors perfectly. They are $5 a piece, but we only need 35 invites. That's $175. Dirt, frikkin cheap for invites. She flipped out about that beinf insanely expensive. Excuse me? $175 for invites that I do not have to print or assemble or mess with or think about in any way is not expensive. She got way over-the-top about it and I can't help but wonder what her deal is.

I have been really, really good budget wise. We are currently $1500 UNDER budget (ha. and that is with budgeting $250 for invites). I have done all of the research and planning myself. I have done all of the leg work. I do not leave her out, I ask her opinions. I involve her, because she wants to be involved. She is not like this all the time, but recently she has lost her freakin mind.

I just wish she would lay the hell off with her judgements and her out-dated etiquette ideas. I'm sick of it. Done. I'm starting to wish I would have eloped with FI when he wanted to.

These are the invites, btw. They are so simple and pretty.

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=34702572

No to mention that by some coincidence, the seller is local so I won't have to pay for shipping.

@monitajb- My parents are, yes. And honestly, I have been very good about that. It was not something that I expected them to do and because of that I am very grateful to them. She really has had a lot of say in what has gone down. She has gone to every vendor meeting. She helped pick out my dress and the BM dresses. She has had opinions in every aspect of the decor and food, etc. She dictated all of the guests from our side. I fully subscribe to the belief that she has a say because she is paying, but she does not get a say on every single thing. This is still my wedding. I am not frustrated so much on the issue that she is being too pushy about things, we really work pretty well together normally. I am frustrated with how she has handled everything. She has been such a spaz, just freaking out about every little thing and she has some extremely antiquated opinions.

@Dancy- Your post made me smile. We should make t-shirts. We could totally make a fortune pedalling them to harried brides. My mom uses the "That's different" a LOT. lol.

Thank you ladies soo much. You guys are awesome. I don't want you guys to think my mom is completely nuts. She's not. She's going through menopause at the moment and she's just hormonally nuts. I'm hoping it wears off a bit before my wedding.

I'm glad you guys like the invites. I LOVE them. They are so perfect.